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Friday, September 8, 2023

The gap between others and you is not at work but after work

When I went to work a few days ago, I heard a worker tell her own experience. Although it was a very ordinary story, I found it very inspirational.

She is from an ordinary family, and she is the only child in the family, so her parents hope that she can have more children, saying that one child is too lonely, and in addition to the pressure of life now, the pressure on children will be even greater in the future. She herself said that she was too foolish and filial. In order to listen to her parents, she ignored the opposition of her husband's family and had more children.

For the sake of the family, she and her husband work hard every day. When she goes to work, she does not take leave, because she feels that if she takes a day off, she will not be paid a day, and she does several jobs every day. Go to the breakfast shop in the morning to sell breakfast for an hour, and then go to work. At night, she goes back to as delivery driver after work, and she can only go home to rest at one or two o'clock in the evening. What she said was that a person's greatest confidence is to have money, even if you have a husband and someone to help you, but you have to know how to make money yourself, others are unreliable, only the money you earn can be at ease when you spend it with your heart.

After their hard work, she is living a good life now, and the days are getting better and better. Although it is not as difficult as before, she still works hard, is more diligent, and insists on being a delivery driver after returning from work every day. From her confident and optimistic smile, it can be seen that she is living a good life and happy now.

As for other people, as long as they are diligent, they will have a good life. In fact, there is not much difference between each of us. What really widens the gap is everyone's cognition, ability to do things, and attitude.

Each of us has our own thoughts and opinions on everything, which depends on everyone's cognition. Cognition is the ability to recognize one thing. For example, there is a big cognitive gap between old people and young people, young people and children, farmers and workers, workers and leaders, leaders and children. Only when your cognition reaches a certain level can you change your identity and status. Everyone who wants to change himself must first improve his cognitive ability. Only when his cognition changes can he change himself. It’s very simple, if we ordinary people don’t learn to change and improve our cognitive ability, we may go on like this for the rest of our life, and you can see what you will be like in the future when you look up. What heights can be achieved. If someone makes a change, or encounters something beyond your ability, force you to change. These two types are called active change and passive change. It is difficult for most people to take the initiative to make changes, because they are used to staying in their comfort zone, not because they are forced to a dead end, and few people make changes. After all, people like a comfortable living environment and enjoyment.

You must have a good attitude when you do things. Attitude determines the height of a person. No matter how stupid or poor you are, as long as you are willing to work hard, having a good attitude will make you better and better. Even if we are at the bottom of society, as long as we have a good attitude, do things seriously, and work hard to do well. As long as you're willing to keep trying, It’s all going to get better. No matter what you do, attitude is very important. It's like when we go to work every day, some people feel that they will work hard if they are urged by the leader, and they will just muddle along for a day if they don't care about it. They always feel that they are doing things for the boss. But how many people have thought about it, they can use work as a platform, they can change the boss, and the boss can change them, but they must always understand the truth that they can make themselves stronger and improve their ability on this platform. If you are willing to work hard and what you get is not just a salary, but more salary, higher position, and stronger ability. In the same way, you are unwilling to work hard. Wherever you go, you will take the lowest wage and do the hardest work.

The last one is ability. Ability must be based on the previous two points. If you do not have a correct understanding, you will have many detours and will always stay where you are. No matter how hard you work and how hard you make progress, you will not make great progress. You have high awareness, but without effort, without a right attitude there will be no progress. You can see that something is very profitable, but if you don't take action yourself, you will never make this money. You know that doing a job can improve your ability, but if you are unwilling to work hard, you will not improve.

The gap between others and you is getting bigger and bigger when you are off work. After you get off work, you go to play, hang out, lie down to play games, sleep, others work hard every day, study hard, and others get good grades. You always feel that others are lucky Okay, but you will never understand how much others have paid behind their backs and others use the time you squander to improve themselves. Time is the same for everyone, every day is 24 hours, but others spend their time on meaningful things, but you let your own time go to waste, this is what separates you from others.

Friday, September 1, 2023

Some insights from life:

1. Have you noticed that when people start to show off, it is often the beginning of disasters. It means that when people are in good times, they don't have to show off too much.

We should all remain low profile. After all, there may be people in this world who really want you to live well, but most people don't want you to live better than him.

2. If one day the great luck arrives and makes you rich, you must always remind yourself: don’t forget the way you ran without an umbrella in those days of heavy rain; How did you survive the days of rain? Remember to help those who are running in the heavy rain and those who are wandering around, hungry and cold, help them, and love them

3. I have always liked this saying: the noblest punishment is silence, and the most reserved revenge is ignorance. Less entanglement in bad things, less anger for unworthy people, and make your life more exclusive. Learn to let go in order to move forward better. This world may seem complicated, but in essence it is still your world alone.

There are too many surprises in this world, and some things are simply not worthy of possession.

Have your emotions. Life is an experience, please enjoy it.

4. I saw this sentence that inexplicably encouraged me, and I hope it also encouraged you: I know you are very tired recently, it is the invisible physical and mental exhaustion, but please perseveres. Even if no one cares about it, it doesn't matter if your skills are inferior to others, don't let restlessness and anxiety ruin your lack of enthusiasm and concentration. Don't be greedy, we can't have everything, and don't be discouraged, we can't have nothing.

5. You don't have to compare yourself to others. You don't become an ostrich if you are a bat by nature.

Friday, August 25, 2023

Change starts bit by bit

Many people find it difficult to change. For example, from staying up late to going to bed early, from not exercising to exercising frequently. Yes, it is difficult for each of us to change ourselves, it takes willpower to change. It is difficult to get out of a comfortable environment. After all, it is easy to go from frugal to lazy, but difficult to go from extravagant to frugal.

If you let a person do nothing every day other than to eat and sleep, everyone can do it, but if a person is busy from morning to night every day, few people may be able to persist. I see other people do good things, but I can't do it myself. In fact, we don't need to envy others for many things; we have to learn to do it. We must learn to persist in doing one thing, We should not be giving up when we feel that there is no result. Don't be in a hurry to do something. Many people feel that they have worked hard, very hard, but have not achieved much.

Doing a little less every day is better than doing a lot of hard work in a day, and giving up after a few days. The two results are completely different. I remember that we learned the story of the tortoise and the hare when we were young. Most of us must like rabbits. We feel that we are the same as rabbits. We run fast, and we can stop and rest after running. Many people think that the rabbit lost the game because it overslept. Many people think that the real gap exists, and the tortoise will never be better than the rabbit. In fact, this is a misunderstanding. First of all, Rabbit lost the game due to pride and complacency. He always felt that he was better than others. He didn't need to put in a lot of effort, and he could win easily. The second is to lose patience. If the rabbit can hold back his temper and insist on running to the finish line before going to rest, he will never lose. And the tortoise just won in the determination to persevere patiently. Even if it doesn't win the game, we know from the strength on paper that the rabbit will definitely win the game. As long as the tortoise insists on completing the game, it will be respected by others, because it has persisted and made efforts. There will be miracles if you work hard and persevere. If the tortoise feels that he can't win at the beginning, he gives up, he doesn't even have a chance to win!

Each of us should not give up on ourselves first, or give up when we feel that we are not good enough. Although we can't do as well as others, we will try our best to persevere, and there will be miracles! Many people see that the gap between themselves and others is too large, so they choose to give up, and the gap with others will only become wider and wider. Let's not think about comparing ourselves with people who are better than us, but learn to compare with ourselves. Today is better than yesterday, and tomorrow is better than today. You are making progress. Persevere for a long time, and one day you will find that you will become better and better. Don't set your own goals too big, learn to set small goals for yourself, a goal that can be achieved every day, and you are improving every day. If you can be a little better than the previous day every day, it means that you are improving every day. We've all heard that more haste makes less speed.

No matter at work or in our life, we will find that only those who persevere for a long time can achieve good results, and those who say they want to change today will start working hard tomorrow, maybe tomorrow they will really start working hard, and they will work very hard They tried to change themselves, but it didn't take long for them to return to their old ways and become what they were before. It can't be said that they didn't work hard or make changes, but they didn't persevere. Without seeing any results, they will give up without motivation. On the contrary, some people make changes. We may not see any changes in him at all, but after a long time, you will find that he will undergo qualitative changes. Why, because he may only change a little bit, take a little time every day Come to learn, make a little change, persist for a long time, and a qualitative leap will occur.

In many cases, it is not that we do not have the ability to change ourselves, but that the goals we set for ourselves are too great, and we finally decide that we cannot achieve them and choose to give up. In fact, it is a very simple truth. For example, if we want to read a book, maybe you set a goal for yourself to finish reading the book in one day, but you read it very hard for a day and found that you didn’t read much at all. Work harder, read it for another night, and find that this is an impossible task, but it will make you feel very tired even to the extent of having no interest in reading in the future. If you insist on reading a little every day and keep going every day, you will find that you will learn new things every day and make progress every day. Even if the progress is small, you will not feel very strenuous, but you will only spend a small part of your time. There is no delay in anything else, as long as you persevere, and one day you will look back and find that you have read a lot of books. You have also made great progress.

I remember when I went to my grandma’s house when I was young, I always felt that it was very far away, and I always felt that I had walked for a long time. Every time I went, I will go to the house of my classmates who was close to my house to play for a while, then I go to play with other classmates. I found that it was not far away, and I think it was very interesting. I don't feel so tired after making the stops. In fact, it is a very simple principle. Divide a big goal into many small goals. Children like to play, and they can play with their classmates after walking for a while. With motivation, you won't feel so tired. The goal of our efforts in life is the same. If we divide the goal into many small goals and achieve them one by one, for example, after finishing studying today, you can reward yourself for playing a game for a while, and when you finish tomorrow, reward yourself with a drumstick. It's very interesting. I have a small goal every day. If I achieve the small goal, I will gain something. If I persist in it for a long time, I will find that I am very close to my big goal. People have to learn that in order to let them improve, and they also need to learn to relax properly, so that they can have the motivation to go further. If they just work hard, they will feel that there is no fun, and they will also lose motivation, and they will not be able to persevere and will easily give up!

Learn to seek gradual progress, and you may find changes in your life. If you push yourself too hard, it will be counterproductive and choose to give up instead!