INFP (Perfectionist Confidant)

INFP (perfectionist confidant)

1. Summary

INFPs, confidants, can also be called "healers", "visionaries" or “philosophers". Several important characteristics of INFPs include shyness, sensitivity, quietness, perfectionism and low self-esteem.

INFPs value inner harmony above all else. They are sensitive, idealistic, loyal, have a strong sense of honour for personal values, have firm personal beliefs, and have the spirit of devoting themselves to causes they consider worthy.

They appear indifferent to the outside world, but INFPs are very concerned about the inside. They are compassionate, understanding, and sensitive to the emotions of others. Apart from their values ​​being threatened, they always avoid conflict and have no interest in coercing or dominating others. INFPs often prefer to express their feelings in writing rather than verbally. INFPs may be most persuasive when they convince others of the importance of their ideas. INFPs rarely show strong feelings and often appear silent and calm. However, once they get to know each other, they become warm and friendly. INFPs are friendly, but avoid superficial interactions. They value those who take the time to think about goals and values.

Special Note: INFP tend to have a tendency of inferiority complex. Although many of them have outstanding abilities, they still feel that they are not good enough.

2. Analysis

The INFP personality type makes up about 3%-4% of the general population.

INFPs are introspective and focused (I); prefer to observe their surroundings in an abstract, visionary and imaginative way (N). Their decisions are based on personal values, subjective decisions (F), not to control others, but to assert themselves. INFP lives are very casual and flexible (P). I personally observe that ESTJs are more respected in theworkplace, and most managers are ETJs, which makes INFPs very embarrassed, which may make INFPs very uncomfortable in the workplace.

In terms of learning preferences, INFPs are different from common NPs. They are "big" in life, not "big" in learning, and even dig into details. Although doing so will be very tiring, it will make them feel more perfect.

Like most NFs, INFPs prefer liberal arts. INFPs especially like literature. There are almost no INFPs who don't like literature. So if you think you are an INFP and don't like literature, then you have to think about your personality type.

Perfectionism is a characteristic of INFP. Many types of people can be called perfectionism. The four types of NF are more extreme in this regard, but among the four types of NF, INFP is the most idealistic and perfectionist. The tendency is also the strongest, and this perfectionist tendency mainly points to themselves and those who are close to them, especially in terms of character or moral flaws, INFPs may be very sensitive. There is actually a more perfect world in the heart of INFPs, which is the source of their perfectionism, which eventually causes INFPs to be very disappointed in the real world. When evaluating themselves, the perfectionism of INFPs may be more extreme, hoping that they are good in all aspects and their inferiority complex has a lot to do with this perfectionism tendency to evaluate them. In addition, INFPs may have a deep understanding of shame and humiliation, and are easily influenced by various evaluative languages ​​from others. All in all, it is a combination of reasons that lead INFPs to become the most inferior type of 16- type.

An important characteristic of INFPs is that they are very imaginative. INFP is the most abundant type of "inner play" among the 16 types. That's why they can also be called "fantasy". Fantasy or more commonly, daydreaming, is a big interest of INFPs. They can even do nothing, just sit in a chair or lie in bed and dream continuously. For a few hours, then they will feel very satisfied, that is, it is easier to indulge in fantasies, which is often the same as INTPs indulging in thinking. INFPs are also called "philosophers" in some books. This is related to their questioning of the big questions in life that is, asking their hearts, what is the meaning of life? Why do people live? It's such a big problem that many people see as irrelevant. Of course, these big questions are important to everyone. Maybe everyone will ask themselves these questions at some stage in their life, and everyone will have their own answers, but INFPs like to ask these kinds of questions the most. The funny thing is that INFPs never think they have the answer, which is very different from the two types of NFJs. INFPs will always keep asking questions, which is why they are called "philosophers".

INFP's sensitivity endows them with a powerful intuition to perceive people's hearts and understand human nature. They can easily know what other people are thinking; especially they have a relatively high talent in understanding other people's emotions and emotions. This power of perceiving people’s hearts also makes INFPs very good at trying to figure out the meaning, innuendo, and they are very sensitive to these INFPs, although sometimes their judgments may not be accurate, but basically INFPs will instinctively feel that anything in relation to relationships cannot escape their eyes, as if they know everything. In fact, the title of INFP called “intimate person" has two meanings. One is the intimate person who knows and penetrates people's hearts. INFPs care a lot about the true appearance of people's hearts, and their perfectionism has caused a kind of spiritual cleanliness, that is, the extreme pursuit of "spiritual beauty", which is different from the ISFP's pursuit of beauty. INFPs are particularly unable to bear the falseness and ugliness of their own or others' minds, including incompleteness of their minds or souls,etc. These are things that INFPs don't want to feel. They hope that their own and other people's minds can be A state of complete harmony, and will strive to maintain. This matter is actually a kind of spiritual healing and healing. In other words, INFPs are good at listening and comforting others, and are good at making impetuous heart calm and helping others (often including themselves) Rediscovering the truest self is the second meaning of "confidant".

Special note: INFPs are not easy to be detected in life. Their sense of existence is very weak. If some people (women) are "weak" to the extreme, this person is likely to be an INFP.

3. Traits and characteristics

INFPs are most comfortable doing things that align with their values. However, as long as they are willing to change their perspective a little and see what they are doing that is not so interesting as a work of service to others, they will do it with all their heart and will not give up.

When INFPs are not taking on the leadership role of a team, what motivates them to work is the ability to find personal meaning in their work. When you're underpowered and underperforming, your INFP colleagues are likely to sit on the side-lines indifferently. Their most typical idea is "individuals do their own work." But if you have an INFP boss, or your job is closely tied to an INFP's interests, he can become very controlling.

Typically, there are very few INFPs in high-ranking positions, and even rarer among them are CEOs. However, once an INFP becomes a very senior leader, he can always keep his subordinates loyal. He is good at balancing task completion and team members' feelings. As an INFP subordinate, you can develop freely and get a lot of affirmation, and someone will listen to you. As long as you work hard and don't touch the INFP's personal value, even if you fail, your efforts will be affirmed and encouraged. Because INFPs give people a sincere feeling, people will not express different opinions easily, so the open conflict in the team will be greatly reduced.

It is very difficult to get an INFP to forgive you if you offend the INFP's value system, if they are willing to forgive you. The "I" and "F" sides of INFPs make it difficult for them to forgive those who violate their values, and their "N" and " P" sides make them seem nonchalant in any situation. INFPs say "it's okay" and "it doesn't matter" when in fact getting their forgiveness is not as easy as it seems. If an EJ makes a mistake and apologizes, the INFP will give him a typical “INFP" response of "its okay". EJ naively thought it was all right, but it wasn't at all.

In INFPs, there are more women than men. This is because women tend to show a preference for emotion. INFPs are passionate about working to improve people's lives, such as against drinking and driving, and promoting women's liberation. If you're looking for an INFP in power, it's easiest to find in a social movement or social organization of this nature.

For men who think INFPs take on leadership roles, it takes both vision and excellence. Once a leader, he is an inspirational leader; however, the trivial details of everyday life can also ruin the leader. Some people might criticize him for being too gentle, casual, and unmanly, so he made a very tough stance to show his masculinity.

Let’s talk about the shortcomings of INFPs. Obviously, the overly sensitive personality makes INFPs easily injured in interpersonal relationships, because their defense in this area really needs to be strengthened. They care too much about whether others like them, or INFPs are the least likely What they like is that others don’t like them, and a little disharmony in interpersonal relationships will make them feel uneasy; if INFPs are too sensitive in interpersonal relationships, and at the same time they imagine others to be too sensitive, in fact, they will be a negative influence on interpersonal relationships. On the one hand, most people will find it difficult to get along with those INFPs who are too sensitive, because it seems that whatever they say may hurt them; on the other hand, if the INFP thinks about others too sensitively, it is easy to think too much about them. , but make the other party feel unbearable. Any objection can make the INFP very nervous; but as we mentioned earlier, despite the strong emotions inside, the INFP on the surface tends to be very tolerant of other people's objections. Whether male or female, INFPs want to help others develop themselves and gain independence. But they are often caught in a conflict, not knowing whether to guide each other directly or indirectly persuade each other. If the scale of the two is not properly grasped, others are likely to misunderstand the INFP, either thinking that he is too controlling, or that he is beating around the bush. ESTJs with four letters different from INFPs are most likely to have similar misunderstandings about INFPs and thus offend INFPs.

Changes in the work environment can make INFPs deviant. If the work environment is very negative, INFPs may become restless and exhibit some of the avoidance tendencies that F-types tend to have. At this time, the INFP will appear unresponsive or overly sensitive, which is very different from the usual INFP. In more extreme cases, the INFP can be manic and unstable, sometimes a depressive, sometimes an angry critic, often bringing out old accounts that have nothing to do with the current situation.

If INFPs feel that work is not always done perfectly and time is never enough, this leads to serious self-criticism. They are so demanding of themselves that they refuse to accept help from superiors, colleagues and subordinates.

Objectively speaking, INFPs are not weak, but  have set the standard too high in their heart.

4. Preferred career fields

Preferred fields of work are: creative, artistic, education, counselling, research, religion, health care, technology and other fields.

Typical occupations preferred: Human resources worker, social science worker, team building consultant, career planner, editor, art director, architect, fashion designer, journalist, art director, interpreter and translator, entertainment industry, legal mediator People, massage doctors, psychological counsellors, psychologists, consultants.

5. Advantages and disadvantages of the work

1. Advantages at work may include:

a)    Thoughtful and able to focus on an issue or point of view

b)    Desire to think outside the box and consider new possibilities

c)    Actively engage in and believe in the cause

d)    Works well alone when necessary

e)    Has a natural curiosity and skill in collecting all the information

f)     Seeing the bigger picture and seeing the connection between awareness and behaviour

g)    Insight into the needs and motivations of other people

h)    Highly adaptable, can quickly change your driving speed and goals

i)      Works extremely well with people on a one-to-one basis

 2. Weaknesses at work may include:

a)    Must be in control of the scheme/plan or you may lose interest

b)    There is a tendency to become disorderly, and it is difficult to grasp the priorities

c)    Reluctance to do work that conflicts with one's own values

d)    Reluctance to do things the traditional way

e)    Natural idealism, which may keep you from realistic expectations

f)     Hate to behave in a traditional or customary way

g)    Difficulty working in a competitive, stressful environment

h)    Unwilling to punish the direct perpetrators, unwilling to criticize others

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Application of MBTI knowledge in workplaces

Application of MBTI knowledge in workplaces

With MBTI, We can better understand ourselves, understand others, and make full use of the advantages of our personality type (professional personality) in the workplace.

If you are extroverted (E)

No one is 100% introverted or extroverted. Each of us is introverted and extroverted depending on the situation. For example, we may appear more extroverted at work and more introverted at home. However, if you find yourself energized rather than exhausted outside, you are likely to be more extroverted.

Advantage: Whether it's hosting a meeting or giving a client presentation, extroverts shine when faced with a crowd. Extroverts prefer verbal communication, are good at engaging with a variety of people, enjoy leading teams, and want to deal with conflict face-to-face. A passion for meeting new people helps extroverts advance in career planning and extensive networking helps them progress. "

Challenge: Extroverts are good at building working relationships, but can also take a toll on workloads. For those who like to socialize (and get a huge sense of accomplishment from it), it can sometimes be difficult to stop office conversations that interfere with getting work done. "

If you are an introvert (I)

It's not that introverts don't like or value interacting with others, it's just that they have the advantage of getting things done on their own. Introverts prefer written communication and want a chance to reflect before giving feedback in meetings. They need time to recharge themselves, especially in situations that require a lot of human interaction. "

Advantage: When introverts work on an independent project, they'll undoubtedly get things done unexpectedly. Their ideal job is an individual-based job and works well with a detailed report or company budget. They like to take the time to think about problems from different perspectives, and the solutions they propose are well-received for being thorough and thoughtful.

Challenge: Introverts prefer to work alone rather than in teams. Introverts are often misunderstood as too timid, withdrawn, or socially isolated because they often appear quiet and like to bury their heads in thought. "

Note: Introverts must express themselves more, communicate with colleagues. Giving more input in meetings and trying to communicate more with colleagues at lunch or after-hours events will all give introverts a boost in profile and influence. "This is especially important when promotion opportunities come.

If you gather information through Sensing(S)

When it comes to making a decision about something, do you rely on the facts to draw a conclusion? If so, then you are probably on the "reality" end. If you prefer realism, then your thought process is logical and results are based on facts. "

Advantage: Focusing on details not only helps those who prefer reality to progress at work, but also captures details when communicating with superiors and other colleagues. At work, you are able to use your ability to pay attention to detail, especially the verbal and non-verbal cues of others, to build rapport and ensure clear and direct communication. "

Challenge: People who prefer realism pay attention to details, but they tend to ignore or never consider the big picture or strategy of a project/programme and the impact of their individual roles/responsibilities.

Note: Trying to get a more complete picture of the scope of work will help those who prefer reality to make progress. They need to better understand the big picture in a project or scenario and value data beyond facts

If you gather information through intuition (N)

The intuitive-preferred type gathers information through deep reflection. If you prefer intuition, you will look beyond the surface to get to the bottom of a concept and think about new ideas or options.

Advantage: In a brainstorming session, people who prefer intuition are invaluable, always bringing unique ideas. You will be ideal for a company think tank or brainstorming session. Because of your unique ability to think, others may depend on you.

Challenge: People who prefer intuition tend to overlook important details that can be very important to their career success. "

Note: Although the details may not be attractive to you, you should try to pay attention. Make sure you fully understand the details of your own part of the team project before putting it together in the big picture. "

If you make decisions by thinking (T)

No matter which MBTI personality you are, making decisions requires thinking, but if your decisions are based more on facts than feelings about a particular situation, then you are likely to prefer rationality. "If you prefer rationality, you prefer an intellectual approach to a problem, and when you're dealing with or discussing a problem, you're trying to keep your emotions out of the way,"

Advantage: People who prefer rationality have a reputation for being fair when it comes to solving client problems or dealing with colleague disagreements, so they can serve well in leadership roles. To others, you can be a good explorer because you can provide logical solutions to emotional problems. Maybe other co-workers will also ask for your help to resolve work disputes fairly.

Challenge: While the rationality and impartiality of those who prefer rationality are appreciated, in some cases it is necessary to express emotions in the workplace. People who prefer rationality are more likely to be seen as apathetic, insensitive, and unsympathetic. As a result, they must consider how others perceive the actions they wish to take as they work.

Note: Developing empathy, engaging with co-workers, and understanding how co-workers are feeling about a particular situation can all help strengthen work relationships. When a conflict occurs, trying to use your own emotions to understand how the other person is feeling can help resolve the conflict quickly.

If you make decisions by feeling (F)

You will weigh the pros and cons of things, but more situations will be driven by emotion. If you prefer to use your heart, you will often consider the feelings of others when making and sharing decisions. "

Advantage: Emotional people are good at getting along with a variety of personality types, which makes them great team leaders. They understand the emotions of others very well, have good interpersonal skills and are able to work with different types of team members. "

Challenge: Emotional people like to help others, but it is impossible to make everyone happy. Emotional people should make sure that their emotions are not so rich that they interfere with the progress of the project. This type of person dislikes conflict, but avoiding it can lead to bigger problems and may be seen by others as one who favors one over another.

Take note: try to make tough decisions, even though it may be unpleasant for some people. Balancing the need for harmony and inclusiveness enables just and reasonable decisions to be made. "

If you look at the world in terms of Judging (J)

If you prefer judgment based on a set of "rules", others will see you as a follower of rules, someone who likes to follow order.

Advantage: Following the rules and following the proper workflow will both get your boss's approval and set you up for success at work. Leaders appreciate people who keep their employees on the same page. Because such people usually rely on logic to make decisions in order to achieve their goals.

Challenge: Many work situations require flexibility, which is not easy for people with fixed preferences. J-type people are often seen as being too rigid, extremely focused on their own plans, and never giving in.

Points to note: They should be flexible in balancing organizational structures and deadlines within the team, and willing to accept information that is inconsistent with the original plan.

If you look at the world in terms of Perceiving (P)

Perceiving people are more flexible in the way they view their environment. If you prefer conformity, you are often seen as flexible and open-minded.

Advantage: When new challenges arise at work, changing your approach and adapting to change can help you stand out. If willing to be flexible, that means you may offer (or at least have) different solutions. Employees are open-minded and willing to try new ideas and solutions, and their bosses like it. You may be well suited to lead a change program, especially if others don't yet agree. "

Challenge: Of course, if you can't make a decision yet, being flexible and open-minded is not good. People who prefer conformity are often seen as indecisive or frivolous, unable to meet deadlines because they look to a variety of different opinions. "

Note: Being flexible may affect your ability to get work done. Don't rush into a coworker's request, but take the time to consider before responding, making sure your options are in the best interests of yourself and the company.

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ENTP: Doraemon

INTP: Thinking Scholar

ENTJ: Natural Leader

INTJ: Independent Expert

ENFJ: Educational Educator

INFJ: The guide of the Spiritual World

ENFP: Dream Chaser

INFP: Perfectionist Confidant

ESFP: Indispensable Treasure

ISFP: Quiet and Beautiful Artist

ESTP: Practitioner who lives in the present

ISTP: Humble Craftsman

ESFJ: Hospitable Host

ISFJ: Dedicated Protector

ESTJ: Manager

ISTJ: Meticulous Examiner

What is your MBTI?

I was intrigued by the Korean variety how called MTBI inside which depicts the differences of each personality type. 

Let's talk about the meaning and difference of each letter of the 16-type personality, which will help you make a preliminary judgment of yourself.

The difference between Extrovert (E) and Introvert (I)

Extroverted people prefer to focus their attention and energy mainly on people and things in the external world, while introverted people prefer to focus their attention and energy on various activities in their inner world.

The differences between extroversion and introversion are as follows:

1. Extroverts feel excited, comfortable, and energetic in crowds; introverts feel comfortable when alone and don't like crowds.

2. Extroverts are willing and often want to be the center of attention, while introverts tend to avoid being the center of attention.

3. Extroverts prefer to communicate directly by talking, while introverts prefer to use written methods, such as texting, whatsapping. etc

4. Extroverts like to think and talk at the same time, while introverts tend to think and then talk. The result is: On the surface, extroverts talk more, are more likely to interrupt others to say what they want to say, and respond faster when answering other people's questions. On the contrary, introverts talk less, introvert is better at listening and introvert needs to think carefully when answering other people's questions before he/she speaks. Thus it seems that introvert is slow in the eyes of others. However, introverts will tend to think more deeply.

5. Extroverts are more likely to break the ice in conversations, because they instinctively reject "awkward" situations, while introverts are relatively content with silence, and even know how to "enjoy" silence.

6. Relatively speaking, extroverts prefer a fast-paced life and like all kinds of surprises in life; introverts prefer a slow-paced life and don’t like their rhythm being disrupted by external events.

7. Extroverts are more likely to talk to strangers than introverts, and they are less shy about telling people about themselves (even some “personal privacy” in the eyes of introverts). Introverts are more likely to be reserved and don't like being known a lot about themselves.

8. Extroverts take the initiative most of the time at work and in life, while introverts only take the initiative of things that matter to them.

9. Extroverts have "friends all over the world," while introverts have relatively fewer friends, and usually only have a few close friends.

The difference between Sensing (S) and iNtuitive (N)

S-type people believe more in the information directly obtained through the five senses (five senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell, touch); N-type people believe more in the unconsciousness of things beyond the five senses Information obtained by association (the so-called "sixth sense").

The difference between S-type People and N-type People is as follows:

1. S-type people are relatively able to observe and remember details of actual situations; N-type people tend to ignore specific details unless they are directly related to some abstract pattern. Some N-type people who are overly intuitive may even be "blind" to something that is right in front of them. On the other hand, S-type people may be ignorant of grasping the whole; N-type people prefer generalization and abstraction, so they may be better at grasping the whole situation, and ignoring details is the price they pay. There is a saying that S-type people may "see the tree but not the forest", and N-type people may "see the forest but not the tree".

2. The S-type people tend to discover more practical details, and able to distinguish differences in details. For example, an S-type woman may be more likely to distinguish two different lipstick colours than a N-type woman. Likewise, S-type people are relatively more gifted when it comes to distinguishing the brightness of lights, the smell of perfume, or the taste of desserts, etc. In contrast, N-type people usually have a richer imagination, which not only adds some joy as well as distress to their lives that are difficult to share with S-type people. Horror movies, for example, may be "more terrifying" for N-type people than for S-type people, precisely because N-type people imagine far more scenarios than the film presents.

3. S-type people tend to describe facts as precisely as possible, while N-type people always feel that descriptions of facts are “about the same”. Compared with S-type people who value facts because of their sensitivity to facts, N-type people always have a tendency to devalue facts. In their subconscious mind, facts are experienced as an appearance, a cover, and a fog. When the S-type person asks the N-type person not to change the facts (in fact, N-type forget and think the difference is not important), the N-type person will feel that the S-type person is missing the point and nitpicking.

4. S-type people are more inclined to "follow the facts", in their eyes, a fact is basically this fact, and rarely means anything else; in contrast, N-type people prefer to speculate the meaning or meaning behind a fact, and the relationship of this fact to an assumption or theory. Take for example a fallen leaf, a S-type person may play or study the leaf itself, such as size, color, texture, smell, etc.; on the contrary, if a N-type person may realizes: "Autumn is here!", but after a few minutes you ask N-type person to describe the leaf he just saw, he will probably get many details wrong. From the point of view of receiving information, both have their pros and cons: people who see leaves miss autumn, and people who see autumn actually miss the leaves. There is no good or bad between the two, just a difference of preference.

5. S-type people pay more attention to the reality of things, that is, the current facts and the facts that will be realized soon; N-type people are more concerned about the possibility of things: Future). When imagining the possibilities of things, N-type people are more likely to ignore real obstacles and let their imagination run wild. This also means that N-type people may consider the operability and cost later, which is often regarded as "unrealistic" by S-type people.

6. S-type people prefer to deal with practical things that they can see and touch, while N-type people are more interested in things that are invisible and intangible. For example, people with strong hands-on ability and dexterity are mostly S-type people; N-type thinks and talks about topics that have nothing to do with reality (such as the possibility of time travel, hypothetical experiments in physics, and the relationship between characters in fairy tales). , my life ten years later or after winning the lottery...).

7. When S-type people gather information, they will ask: "What is the truth?" If they have obtained facts that are reliable and accurate in their eyes, they will feel satisfied, and then rely on the facts obtained to make judgments; on the contrary, when N-type people gather information, they will ask: "What does this mean?" If N-type people get the facts, they will not feel satisfied, even instinctively" Put the facts aside" and instead search for the "meanings" or "patterns" behind the facts.

8. S-type people are more willing to experience, while N-type people are more confident in their own "inspiration" and intuitive "understanding" of things. S-type people are usually more willing to choose time-tested or common sense and easy-to-implement methods when doing something; N-type people are more likely to be influenced by innovative, revolutionary, or even unprecedented approach.

9. S-type people prefer to do things they have done before. If faced with something they have never done before, S-type people may lose their confidence; on the contrary, N-type people relatively prefer to do things they haven't done and get excited that their vision for the future might come true, but when faced with something they've done many times, N-type people tend to be less interested or even can't lift their spirits.

The difference between Thinking (T) and Feeling (F)

T-type people tend to make what they think are "correct" decisions by making an objective, intellectual analysis of an event; F-type people tend to make decisions that they think are "right" by considering emotional feelings to make what they consider “good” decisions.

The difference between a T-type person and F-type person.

1. T-type people will try to maintain an objective and fair position when making a decision, with as few personal factors as possible, and often put on an "objective" appearance; emotional people are making a decision. When it is time to try to maintain a subjective and sympathetic position, try to consider everyone's feelings as much as possible.

2. A simple and somewhat absolute statement is: T-type people are "objective and do not mix with personal feeling", and F-type people are otherwise." T-type people are more likely to ignore the individual factors involved in a situation, and mainly consider the logic of the matter itself, and they will also flaunt their "equal treatment" attitude to all people when considering problems; on the contrary, emotional people are more inclined to treat each person as a unique individual, so they will pay more attention to each person's different situation, and they are more likely to advertise themselves as "caring about others" and "being good to others". Of course, if an F-type person hates someone, it is easier to show it in words and actions, so T-type people often criticize F-type people for their "emotional" behavior.

3. When there is a dispute between two people, T-type people will give priority to "who is more reasonable?" "Who is right?" On the contrary, F-type people will give priority to thinking "Who's hurting whom?" "Who's being aggressive?" This makes it harder for someone who doesn't make sense but is "excusable" to get the support of a T-type person, and a person who makes sense but is "not excusable" people have a harder time getting support from F-type people.

4. T-type people pay more attention to "reason", they like to reason in everything, and think that right and wrong and fairness are more important; in contrast, F-type people pay more attention to "emotions", they are willing to do everything. Considering emotional relationships first, F-type might think that the harmony of interpersonal relationships is more important. Because of this, T-type types are more likely to point out the other person's mistakes in conversations. F-type people, however, can easily interpret this ideological confrontation as a kind of emotional rejection. Denying a person's point of view is understood as denying the person himself, or being understood as disliking this person.

5. If there is a conflict of interest, T-type people are more inclined to put the conflict on the table and find a fairer solution acceptable to both parties through negotiation; F-type people prefer that the conflict not be made public, so as not to hurt the peace, and everyone to understand each other and takes a step back from each other.

6. Everyone actually needs to experience emotions when making decisions. The difference between T-type and F-type is only the emphasis on these two methods. For T-type people, the process of experiencing emotions is relatively unconscious. They usually take their emotional feelings and values ​​as the prerequisites for granted, so there is no need to express and discuss them. In contrast, they are more willing to put their energy into the logical thinking process; for F-type people, the operation of the thinking process is relatively conscious or even automatic, and they tend to think that as long as they are emotionally reasonable and the rest of the things will fall into place.

7. Obviously, no matter which way of thinking and feeling is emphasized, there may be hidden dangers. Therefore, T-type people are more likely to "do bad things right", such as scientists who conduct human cloning research without regard to the impact on social ethics; F-type people are more likely to "do wrong things with good intentions", such as rushing to the disaster area to be a volunteer will only add chaos to the relief work... Of course, this is not absolute, and well-developed T-type and F-type people can completely avoid the above situation.

8. Extreme T-type people may have a tendency to "analyze everything", which is often unbearable for many F-type people, especially some T-type people actually analyze "emotions”. For F-type people, it's like measuring a flower with a tape measure - not whether it can be measured, but whether it is necessary to measure it. On the other hand, extreme F-type people may have a tendency to "feel everything", which is often disliked by many T-type people.  If F-type feel bad or don't like it, F-type will reject it. In the eyes of T-type people, this is very irrational.

9. Striking a balance between the two are often the most important because both involve criteria for making decisions, and people tend to have more difficulty compromising on that. Thus, a deep-seated prejudice is formed between the two: T-type people may think that F-type people are too emotional, sentimental; F-type people may think that T-type people are too ruthless, unsympathetic.

The difference between Judging (J) and Perceiving (P)

J-type people tend to make decisions as soon as possible, and it is more difficult to endure the state of unresolved and inconclusive things; P-type people tend to delay making decisions as much as possible, hoping to understand or feel more about things. In all respects, enjoy the "anything is possible" openness that precedes conclusions.

The difference between a J-type person and a P-type person:

1. J-type like to keep everything in good order, including keeping things sorted into categories, and may have a habit of organizing things ; P-type are more comfortable with all kinds of natural chaos, will place all kinds of things at will, which is often accused by J-type.

2. J-type like to plan everything, and hope to do things according to the plan as much as possible, and do not like the previously made plans to be randomly disrupted; P-type people are more casual and do not like to make plans for everything, because This makes them feel constrained and unfree, and they are more inclined to react to things as they happen or are about to happen.

3. J-type like to schedule and organize their lives, so most of their time may be represented as a schedule consisting of a series of "tasks" that J-type can draw from when a task is completed. get a sense of satisfaction; P-type prefer that their lives are not dictated by man, they like life full of unknown possibilities, when there are "new things" that are not expected and planned. When it happens, P-type people get a sense of satisfaction from it.

4. J-type usually start sooner if they know they have a task to do - "do it early" because they are afraid of running out of time later; P-type on the other hand, if there is a task to be done, and unless it's something they're really interested in or important to, they'll tend to delay starting as long as possible, even until a deadline is approaching. This is because any pre-arranged schedule (even in their own favor) will make the P-type feel free, so they will extend as much time as possible before their freedom has been taken away. However, this tendency can easily make the P-type unable to complete the task at the end, or despite the completion, the final period is very painful (such as rushing through the night for several days in a row).

5. J-type people are instinctive result-oriented people. Once they start something, they want to finish it as soon as possible, and often unconsciously "speed up"; P-type people are more focused on the process of one thing, less focused on getting results as soon as possible, often not even realizing "the deadline is near". In many cases, this difference between J-type and P-type directly corresponds to the conflict between efficiency and quality - J-type usually prioritizes efficiency, while P-type is more difficult to compromise on quality standards. Obviously, whether it is work or life, you need to find a balance between the two.

6. In the eyes of the J-type, everything is "right or wrong"; while the P-type is more likely to hold a relativistic view of right and wrong, because they are always receiving information, so they will feel that everything has the possibility of change.

7. J-type likes to use the word "should" to think and speak. In their minds, there is a corresponding "should" version of many things: if things are going in line with their "should", J-type will express approval; if the opposite is true, J-type may show displeasure or even anger. In contrast, P-types are more receptive to things as they are, they may have expectations about something, but if things don't turn out as expected, they are happy to have discovered something new and adjust themselves quickly the opinion of. This difference leads to J-type who always likes to evaluate people or things around them, while P-types prefer descriptions and introductions. Not only has that, P-types also dislike other people's opinions of themselves.

8. When J-type announce the beginning of something, it means they are about to start doing it (like having a baby); when J-type announce an end, it means they don’t waste another minute on this thing (like a breakup). On the contrary, when the P-type declares the beginning or the end, exactly when it begins and when it ends still depends on the subsequent development, and may change at any time. Taking the previous example, a P-type person will say "I want a baby", but the exact time of pregnancy needs to "depending on the situation".

9. J-type will think that their past actions have a stipulation on their present and future, or that the present and future are "obliged" to be consistent with the past; on the contrary, in the eyes of P-type , the past is the past, the present is the present, and the future is the future. The important thing is to be loyal to the self at every moment. As for how much the current self is consistent with the previous self, it is basically beyond the attention of the P-type. This distinction, on the one hand, makes it easier for J-type people to trap themselves, and on the other hand, it also makes it easier for P-type people to break their past commitments (especially verbal commitments on a whim), carry a bad reputation for reneging on promises and not keeping promises.

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