Friday, February 3, 2023

INFP (Perfectionist Confidant)

INFP (perfectionist confidant)

1. Summary

INFPs, confidants, can also be called "healers", "visionaries" or “philosophers". Several important characteristics of INFPs include shyness, sensitivity, quietness, perfectionism and low self-esteem.

INFPs value inner harmony above all else. They are sensitive, idealistic, loyal, have a strong sense of honour for personal values, have firm personal beliefs, and have the spirit of devoting themselves to causes they consider worthy.

They appear indifferent to the outside world, but INFPs are very concerned about the inside. They are compassionate, understanding, and sensitive to the emotions of others. Apart from their values ​​being threatened, they always avoid conflict and have no interest in coercing or dominating others. INFPs often prefer to express their feelings in writing rather than verbally. INFPs may be most persuasive when they convince others of the importance of their ideas. INFPs rarely show strong feelings and often appear silent and calm. However, once they get to know each other, they become warm and friendly. INFPs are friendly, but avoid superficial interactions. They value those who take the time to think about goals and values.

Special Note: INFP tend to have a tendency of inferiority complex. Although many of them have outstanding abilities, they still feel that they are not good enough.

2. Analysis

The INFP personality type makes up about 3%-4% of the general population.

INFPs are introspective and focused (I); prefer to observe their surroundings in an abstract, visionary and imaginative way (N). Their decisions are based on personal values, subjective decisions (F), not to control others, but to assert themselves. INFP lives are very casual and flexible (P). I personally observe that ESTJs are more respected in theworkplace, and most managers are ETJs, which makes INFPs very embarrassed, which may make INFPs very uncomfortable in the workplace.

In terms of learning preferences, INFPs are different from common NPs. They are "big" in life, not "big" in learning, and even dig into details. Although doing so will be very tiring, it will make them feel more perfect.

Like most NFs, INFPs prefer liberal arts. INFPs especially like literature. There are almost no INFPs who don't like literature. So if you think you are an INFP and don't like literature, then you have to think about your personality type.

Perfectionism is a characteristic of INFP. Many types of people can be called perfectionism. The four types of NF are more extreme in this regard, but among the four types of NF, INFP is the most idealistic and perfectionist. The tendency is also the strongest, and this perfectionist tendency mainly points to themselves and those who are close to them, especially in terms of character or moral flaws, INFPs may be very sensitive. There is actually a more perfect world in the heart of INFPs, which is the source of their perfectionism, which eventually causes INFPs to be very disappointed in the real world. When evaluating themselves, the perfectionism of INFPs may be more extreme, hoping that they are good in all aspects and their inferiority complex has a lot to do with this perfectionism tendency to evaluate them. In addition, INFPs may have a deep understanding of shame and humiliation, and are easily influenced by various evaluative languages ​​from others. All in all, it is a combination of reasons that lead INFPs to become the most inferior type of 16- type.

An important characteristic of INFPs is that they are very imaginative. INFP is the most abundant type of "inner play" among the 16 types. That's why they can also be called "fantasy". Fantasy or more commonly, daydreaming, is a big interest of INFPs. They can even do nothing, just sit in a chair or lie in bed and dream continuously. For a few hours, then they will feel very satisfied, that is, it is easier to indulge in fantasies, which is often the same as INTPs indulging in thinking. INFPs are also called "philosophers" in some books. This is related to their questioning of the big questions in life that is, asking their hearts, what is the meaning of life? Why do people live? It's such a big problem that many people see as irrelevant. Of course, these big questions are important to everyone. Maybe everyone will ask themselves these questions at some stage in their life, and everyone will have their own answers, but INFPs like to ask these kinds of questions the most. The funny thing is that INFPs never think they have the answer, which is very different from the two types of NFJs. INFPs will always keep asking questions, which is why they are called "philosophers".

INFP's sensitivity endows them with a powerful intuition to perceive people's hearts and understand human nature. They can easily know what other people are thinking; especially they have a relatively high talent in understanding other people's emotions and emotions. This power of perceiving people’s hearts also makes INFPs very good at trying to figure out the meaning, innuendo, and they are very sensitive to these INFPs, although sometimes their judgments may not be accurate, but basically INFPs will instinctively feel that anything in relation to relationships cannot escape their eyes, as if they know everything. In fact, the title of INFP called “intimate person" has two meanings. One is the intimate person who knows and penetrates people's hearts. INFPs care a lot about the true appearance of people's hearts, and their perfectionism has caused a kind of spiritual cleanliness, that is, the extreme pursuit of "spiritual beauty", which is different from the ISFP's pursuit of beauty. INFPs are particularly unable to bear the falseness and ugliness of their own or others' minds, including incompleteness of their minds or souls,etc. These are things that INFPs don't want to feel. They hope that their own and other people's minds can be A state of complete harmony, and will strive to maintain. This matter is actually a kind of spiritual healing and healing. In other words, INFPs are good at listening and comforting others, and are good at making impetuous heart calm and helping others (often including themselves) Rediscovering the truest self is the second meaning of "confidant".

Special note: INFPs are not easy to be detected in life. Their sense of existence is very weak. If some people (women) are "weak" to the extreme, this person is likely to be an INFP.

3. Traits and characteristics

INFPs are most comfortable doing things that align with their values. However, as long as they are willing to change their perspective a little and see what they are doing that is not so interesting as a work of service to others, they will do it with all their heart and will not give up.

When INFPs are not taking on the leadership role of a team, what motivates them to work is the ability to find personal meaning in their work. When you're underpowered and underperforming, your INFP colleagues are likely to sit on the side-lines indifferently. Their most typical idea is "individuals do their own work." But if you have an INFP boss, or your job is closely tied to an INFP's interests, he can become very controlling.

Typically, there are very few INFPs in high-ranking positions, and even rarer among them are CEOs. However, once an INFP becomes a very senior leader, he can always keep his subordinates loyal. He is good at balancing task completion and team members' feelings. As an INFP subordinate, you can develop freely and get a lot of affirmation, and someone will listen to you. As long as you work hard and don't touch the INFP's personal value, even if you fail, your efforts will be affirmed and encouraged. Because INFPs give people a sincere feeling, people will not express different opinions easily, so the open conflict in the team will be greatly reduced.

It is very difficult to get an INFP to forgive you if you offend the INFP's value system, if they are willing to forgive you. The "I" and "F" sides of INFPs make it difficult for them to forgive those who violate their values, and their "N" and " P" sides make them seem nonchalant in any situation. INFPs say "it's okay" and "it doesn't matter" when in fact getting their forgiveness is not as easy as it seems. If an EJ makes a mistake and apologizes, the INFP will give him a typical “INFP" response of "its okay". EJ naively thought it was all right, but it wasn't at all.

In INFPs, there are more women than men. This is because women tend to show a preference for emotion. INFPs are passionate about working to improve people's lives, such as against drinking and driving, and promoting women's liberation. If you're looking for an INFP in power, it's easiest to find in a social movement or social organization of this nature.

For men who think INFPs take on leadership roles, it takes both vision and excellence. Once a leader, he is an inspirational leader; however, the trivial details of everyday life can also ruin the leader. Some people might criticize him for being too gentle, casual, and unmanly, so he made a very tough stance to show his masculinity.

Let’s talk about the shortcomings of INFPs. Obviously, the overly sensitive personality makes INFPs easily injured in interpersonal relationships, because their defense in this area really needs to be strengthened. They care too much about whether others like them, or INFPs are the least likely What they like is that others don’t like them, and a little disharmony in interpersonal relationships will make them feel uneasy; if INFPs are too sensitive in interpersonal relationships, and at the same time they imagine others to be too sensitive, in fact, they will be a negative influence on interpersonal relationships. On the one hand, most people will find it difficult to get along with those INFPs who are too sensitive, because it seems that whatever they say may hurt them; on the other hand, if the INFP thinks about others too sensitively, it is easy to think too much about them. , but make the other party feel unbearable. Any objection can make the INFP very nervous; but as we mentioned earlier, despite the strong emotions inside, the INFP on the surface tends to be very tolerant of other people's objections. Whether male or female, INFPs want to help others develop themselves and gain independence. But they are often caught in a conflict, not knowing whether to guide each other directly or indirectly persuade each other. If the scale of the two is not properly grasped, others are likely to misunderstand the INFP, either thinking that he is too controlling, or that he is beating around the bush. ESTJs with four letters different from INFPs are most likely to have similar misunderstandings about INFPs and thus offend INFPs.

Changes in the work environment can make INFPs deviant. If the work environment is very negative, INFPs may become restless and exhibit some of the avoidance tendencies that F-types tend to have. At this time, the INFP will appear unresponsive or overly sensitive, which is very different from the usual INFP. In more extreme cases, the INFP can be manic and unstable, sometimes a depressive, sometimes an angry critic, often bringing out old accounts that have nothing to do with the current situation.

If INFPs feel that work is not always done perfectly and time is never enough, this leads to serious self-criticism. They are so demanding of themselves that they refuse to accept help from superiors, colleagues and subordinates.

Objectively speaking, INFPs are not weak, but  have set the standard too high in their heart.

4. Preferred career fields

Preferred fields of work are: creative, artistic, education, counselling, research, religion, health care, technology and other fields.

Typical occupations preferred: Human resources worker, social science worker, team building consultant, career planner, editor, art director, architect, fashion designer, journalist, art director, interpreter and translator, entertainment industry, legal mediator People, massage doctors, psychological counsellors, psychologists, consultants.

5. Advantages and disadvantages of the work

1. Advantages at work may include:

a)    Thoughtful and able to focus on an issue or point of view

b)    Desire to think outside the box and consider new possibilities

c)    Actively engage in and believe in the cause

d)    Works well alone when necessary

e)    Has a natural curiosity and skill in collecting all the information

f)     Seeing the bigger picture and seeing the connection between awareness and behaviour

g)    Insight into the needs and motivations of other people

h)    Highly adaptable, can quickly change your driving speed and goals

i)      Works extremely well with people on a one-to-one basis

 2. Weaknesses at work may include:

a)    Must be in control of the scheme/plan or you may lose interest

b)    There is a tendency to become disorderly, and it is difficult to grasp the priorities

c)    Reluctance to do work that conflicts with one's own values

d)    Reluctance to do things the traditional way

e)    Natural idealism, which may keep you from realistic expectations

f)     Hate to behave in a traditional or customary way

g)    Difficulty working in a competitive, stressful environment

h)    Unwilling to punish the direct perpetrators, unwilling to criticize others


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