Change yourself, start with managing habits
What planted is
habit, what harvested is destiny.
"How can I live my life well?"
Managing Habits.
"If you develop a good habit, you will never be able to enjoy the interest it brings. If you develop a bad habit, you will be paying off endless debts for the rest of your life."
A good habit is like an intangible asset, and managing a habit is to add value to life
01 Good habits make life, bad habits destroy life
Good or bad habits will not only determine the success or failure of an event, but also affect a person's destiny.
The English poet Dryden said: We make our habits and then habits make us.
A study also shows that more than 40% of people's daily activities are the product of habits, rather than their own active decisions. What really affects life is often not big choices, but small habits.
Multiple Nobel laureates got together years ago.
The reporter asked one of the scholars: "Which university did you go to and learn what you think is the most important thing?"
"In kindergarten," the scholar said calmly.
The reporter continued to ask: "What did you learn in kindergarten?"
The scholar replied: "Learn to give half of your own things to your friends; don't take things that are not yours; keep things neatly; wash your hands before eating; apologize when you do wrong; take a short nap after lunch; observe the nature. That's all I've learned, fundamentally."
Habits have a profound impact on a person's life.
James Clear, a well-known American habit researcher, also revealed:
What determines our quality of life is the quality of our habits.
02 Why are the poor poor, why are the rich rich?
After five years of investigation and research, it was found that many good habits possessed by the rich are not possessed by the poor at all.
These habits are: read often, insist on getting up early, spend 30-40 minutes thinking about problems every day, and not conform to the crowd blindly.
These things are relatively easy to do in the short-term, but very difficult to stick to in the long-term. But as long as you stick to it and form a habit, your life will change amazingly.
British philosopher Bacon said that habit is a tenacious
and huge force that can dominate life.
If you want to excel, you must understand that habits determine your future.
The famous American statesman Franklin studied for only one year before being forced to go to the printing house as an apprentice.
In his youth, Franklin lacked self-discipline and could not even find a decent job for a long time. After deep reflection, he found that the key to success lies in developing good habits and perfecting his personality.
So, he summed up the 13 good habits needed for success, namely:
Temperance, Silence, Order, Resolution, Frugality, Industry, Sincerity, Justice, Moderation, Cleanliness, Tranquility, Chastity and Humility.
Then use these habits as goals, find all kinds of bad habits in yourself, and correct them one by one.
Franklin said that excellence is a habit, and life can be successful only if good habits accompany life.
Life is nothing but the sum of countless habits.
03
The book "The Power of Habit" depicts a true story.
The protagonist, Lisa Allen, started smoking and drinking at the age of 16, and her life was in a mess. These bad habits made her body fat and bloated. She used to live in debt, and when she was in her 20s, she was taken into hiding by a debt collection agency for asking for $10,000 in debt.
She also doesn't have a stable job, and the longest job she held was less than a year.
It could be said that her life was terrible.
At the age of 34, Lisa made up her mind to change her lifestyle.
At first, she just insisted on running and developed good exercise habits, and gradually changed her eating habits, working habits, sleeping habits, saving habits, and study habits.
Through the change of one habit, the change of another habit is driven, and Lisa's life is also changing quietly.
She stopped drinking, quit smoking, and started studying hard, pursuing a master's degree.
Finally, she managed to lose weight, found a long-term job, bought a house, and got engaged. Good habits are the stepping stone to a better life, and bad habits are the stepping stones to the corridor of failure.
In many cases, it is not when you become excellent that you can have good habits, but when you have good habits, you can become better.
Samurai Furukawa, the author of "How to Quit Bad Habits", also had many bad habits. When he realized that these habits brought a lot of trouble to his life, he was determined to quit these bad habits one by one. He strictly controls the sleep time, no longer stays up late, and insists on going to bed on time at eleven o'clock every night;
In order to eliminate procrastination, he went to the company an hour earlier every day to handle the most important work;
Weekends are no longer about sleeping until you wake up naturally and spending the day lazily, but getting up early to make plans for a new day.
After three months of regular life, he successfully lost 8 kilograms and regained his past look and self-confidence.
When you get rid of one bad habit after another, you can take back control of your life.
04
Jobs said this:
"In the first 30 years of your life, you develop habits;
For the last 30 years of your life, your habits define you. "
In the book "The Power of Habit", three methods are mentioned and shared with you.
1. Identify the habits you want to cultivate and reward yourself in time.
When you complete a stage, reward yourself once and motivate yourself positively, so that you can persevere and persevere.
For example, stick to fitness, stick to it several times a week, and reward yourself with a small gift after sticking to it for a month.
2. Set up "touch buttons" that is simple, obvious and easy to implement.
The so-called "touch the button" is when you see or think of something, start to act immediately, without delay.
For example, if you want to read before going to bed, you can put a book under your pillow. When you touch the book, you immediately put down what you are doing, and open the book to read a few pages.
If you want to get into the habit of getting up and running in the morning, set an alarm clock, get up immediately and go for a run when the alarm clock rings.
3. Between "touch the button" and "reward", repeat the habit.
Between "touching the button" and "rewarding," repeat, repeat, repeat, and keep going.
When a behavior persists for more than 21 days, the body will remember this action and form a natural habit.
What a person sows is habit, and what he reaps is
behavior; if he keeps doing, what he reaps is destiny.
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