Let's start with a question: Are you someone who easily gets angry?
In life, many
things can happen that go against our expectations, whether minor like missing
a bus or major such as being hurt or betrayed by a trusted person. Despite many
things that can upset us, there aren't actually that many worth getting angry
about. Getting mad over trivial matters is being irresponsible towards oneself.
In the latter half of life, the winner depends on one's mindset. If you can
control your anger, you are the winner.
Behaviour
while angry is wrong 80% of the time. In psychology, there's the well-known
10-90 principle. It states that 10% of what happens to you in life is
unavoidable, but the remaining 90% is determined by how you react to those
events. If you maintain a positive mindset, you'll find positivity in life and
not get too bothered by anything. However, if your mindset is poor and you're
constantly getting angry over minor issues, it will only make your life worse.
Around 80% of the decisions and behaviours made while angry are incorrect.
Anger makes people biased, and it can lead to irrationality. In a fit of rage,
people often make poor choices. This is why many make significant mistakes when
angry. For example, a news report described a dispute between a taxi driver and
a passenger. What began as a small issue escalated when the driver, unable to
control emotions, ended up driving the vehicle towards the passenger.
Unfortunately, the passenger lost their life, and the driver faced
imprisonment. In moments of anger, no one wins.
Never make
decisions in a fit of anger as you can't anticipate the impact on your future
life. When angry, try counting to ten, calming down, and then reconsidering the
issue. Don't let a moment of rage ruin several decades of your future life.
Let Go of
Others' Mistakes and Free Your Own Heart
There exists
a blood-sucking bat on the African savannah that latches onto wild horses' legs
to feed on their blood and then flies away satiated. Though these bats don't
take much blood, many wild horses, after being bitten, suffer and eventually
die. The death of the wild horses wasn't due to the bats but the anxiety and
frenzy caused by the biting. This phenomenon, punishing oneself due to the
errors of others, is known as the "wild horse outcome." Anger, in
fact, tortures oneself, punishing oneself. It breeds internally, harming the
body while having no impact on others. It's not worth it. If you think about
it, what's worth getting angry about, affecting our mood and health? And how
many things from the last 5 or 10 years still make us angry? Many times, it's
not the specific incident that troubles us but our present emotions. No one in
this world is worth sacrificing your mental and physical health for. Don't get
angry at petty people; they aren't worth your effort. Also, don't get angry
with loved ones, as it can harm relationships and disrupt harmony. If someone
hurts you, either retaliate or ignore them. Either way, never punish yourself
with someone else's mistakes.
Be
Resourceful Instead of Getting Angry In life, we inevitably face coldness,
malice, and even humiliation. Getting angry and complaining is fruitless and
won't earn anyone's respect. Instead of anger, it's crucial to rally your
spirits and make changes. When you become stronger, the people around you become
friendlier. This is the reality, harsh but true. Anger never solves problems.
Others' opinions about you won't change because of your temper but because of
your capabilities. When people look down on you, don't hastily react. Stay
calm, focus on improving yourself, and prove yourself with your abilities.
Always remember: patience is the highest form of contempt, and strong
capability is the most decisive retaliation.
Time is
invaluable, so why waste emotions on useless anger? There might be many reasons
to get angry in life, but not getting angry needs just one reason: it's not
necessary to make yourself suffer. If you are right, there's no need to be
angry; that's punishing yourself for others' wrongs. If you're wrong, you have
no right to be angry; correcting mistakes is the right approach. In life,
getting what you want is accidental, and facing challenges is the norm. If every
little thing that goes wrong makes you angry, life becomes dull. Anger is like
slow self-destruction, and happiness is the secret to longevity. Being angry
all the time, continually complaining, only makes life more difficult. Besides
life and death, everything else is trivial. No one is worth sacrificing your
happiness, and nothing is worth damaging your mind and body. Our time in this
world is very limited; we're not here to be angry. Instead of wasting time with
resentment, embrace life with a joyful heart.
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