Do you often share your troubles with others?
Do you have a habit of reopening your
wounds to show them to others?
In fact, the world is very complex, and
you can never fully understand how others perceive your hardships.Many times,
the storms and ups and downs you experience are just a story in the eyes of
others.Your pain doesn't need to be lamented loudly; your wounds can't
withstand repeated exposure.
In life, the lower the valley, the more
you should remain silent, endure, and transform suffering.
Just like a clam quietly burying sand
and enduring the painful chewing and digestion to create a brilliant pearl.
You don't need to tell your story to
everyone you meet.
There's a touching story I once read.
A rabbit running through the forest
accidentally scratched its belly on thorns, causing it to bleed. The little
rabbit whimpered in pain, attracting the sympathy of several animals nearby. The
rabbit that gained attention cried even harder, even opening up its wound to
show the surrounding animals. As a result, because the wound wasn't promptly
bandaged and was repeatedly torn open, the little rabbit bled to death.
The story is exaggerated but true.
Because in our lives, there are indeed
people like the little rabbit who, when faced with pain and suffering, always
seek sympathy from others, ultimately leading to tragedy.
Actually, while others may understand your pain, they can
never truly feel it.
My cousin is one with a very decent and
stable job. In public, my cousin drives around, appearing glamorous and
successful. But the reality is, my cousin's mother-in-law got sick and had to
undergo several surgeries, depleting all their savings.
The salary my cousin earns is barely
enough to cover the ongoing medical expenses for the mother-in-law and the
household bills. Despite having glamorous appearances, when my cousin
complained to relatives about their financial struggles, the relatives thought
my cousin was boasting about having money. They felt that despite facing a
major illness and spending a lot of money, my cousin's family's quality of life
hadn't declined, indicating that they were still well off.
Many times, the joys and sorrows of life don't resonate with
others, who are merely spectators to your life experiences.
In the world of adults, you must
navigate your own rivers and endure your own hardships.
Instead of complaining about your troubles everywhere, it's
better to press the mute button and be your own navigator.
If the problems at work can be solved
with concentration, don't complain; if you can't solve them yourself, seek
advice humbly.
Don't pour out your heart to everyone
you meet; people's hearts are inscrutable, and there are always more people
laughing at you than caring about you.
Complaining might just give others
another opportunity to mock you, but taking action and staying silent can lead
to different results.
If there are emotional issues, try to be
understanding instead of blaming; try to communicate as much as possible.
Only you know if the shoes on your feet
are comfortable or not; compatibility can only be achieved through mutual
adjustment.
Pouring out bitterness everywhere not
only invites disdain but also fails to solve any problems.
Instead of trying to make daytime
understand the darkness of night, it's better to digest it alone and reshape
yourself in adversity.
When you've crossed the sea of suffering
in life, you'll understand that you are the best navigator.
Truly mature people have already set their lives to "silent
mode."
I recently read about a news story where
a female construction worker in Hong Kong paid off a debt of 1.7 million. Her
husband had cancer, and to treat it, they accumulated a debt of 1.7 million. After
her husband passed away, she took on all the debts and raised their three
children on her own.
During the hardest times, she worked as
an air conditioner installer, restaurant staff, carpenter, bricklayer,
painter... Every day, the money she earned went towards her children's daily
expenses, and whatever was left went to paying off the debt.
She felt helpless and had no one to turn
to. She even thought about ending her life, but her children depended on her. In
Hong Kong, being a construction worker was the highest-paying job she could
find, but it required certification. To survive and pay off the debt, obtaining
certification as a construction worker was her best option.
Construction work is physically
demanding. A single steel bar, weighing 200 pounds, requires four people to
carry it, and they have to move hundreds of them in a day. In high
temperatures, the steel bars can reach 60 degrees Celsius, and the leather
gloves worn on the hands become useless after a day.
The blueprints for construction are in
English, so she who didn't even finish elementary school, had to start from
scratch, learning one or two words every day. Finally, with all her effort, she
became the second woman in Hong Kong to obtain a construction worker
certification.
After four years of construction work,
she paid off her debts and established herself in Hong Kong.
Looking back, she said:
"Adult life is not easy; everyone
has their own hardships, everyone has their own obstacles to overcome. Whether
it's hard or not depends on whether you can persevere."
Indeed, everyone goes through a dark
period at some point.
Complaining endlessly is like a person
stranded at sea, quenching their thirst with seawater, only to become more
thirsty.
In life, the lower the valley, the more
you should remain silent and persevere.
Truly mature people have already set
their lives to "silent mode."
They silently endure everything, turning
hardships into motivation to move forward; quietly accumulating strength, ready
to rise when the light returns.
"Life is full of ups and downs. In
times of low tide, what you need to do is accumulate and prepare for the tide
to turn."
Crossing the valley marks the beginning
of a new chapter.
Life is like a big pot. When you reach
the bottom, as long as you're willing to work hard, no matter which direction
you go, it's all upwards.
Indeed, in times of adversity, what we
need to do is shut our mouths, calm our hearts, and take action to ferry ourselves
out of the current trough.
Having crossed the valley, one can enjoy
the sweetness of the future. The next chapter may be delayed, but it will come.
Because in life, there's no way out,
only a way forward; there's always a rebound after hitting rock bottom.
Life is like the sea, with mountains and
rivers aplenty, but it's all up to you.
You must believe that the ups and downs
of life are normal, and the storms of the valley can only be weathered by
yourself.
What truly heals you is also yourself.
Instead of trying to alleviate pain by
complaining, hoping to get through tough times, it's better to hold your own
umbrella and move forward.
No matter how deep the trauma, you must
lick your wounds alone; no matter how great the suffering, you must withstand
it alone; no matter how difficult the times, you must dive alone.
Don't spread your hardships everywhere,
seeking help, because the dignity of adults lies in silently ferrying themselves.
Having crossed the valley, what doesn't kill you will only make
you stronger.
"The suffering, losses, burdens,
and pains you endure today will eventually turn into light to illuminate your
path."
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