Managing oneself well is one's essential skill

Managing oneself well is one's essential skill

Life, in fact, is a game between oneself. Do not give up the demanding for self is a person's real ability.

1, Manage the image.

I don't know if you find that as you grow older, people around you are slowly becoming two groups: one group is being destroyed by the years into unkempt, out-of-shape "greasy" middle-aged; the other group seems to have eaten preservatives, maintain very well. The different groups have a very different attitude to life.

I agree with the saying, "Managing your image is not about superficiality, but about respect for yourself and admiration for life." The real ageing of a person is never the ageing, but the loss of the demand for self. Don't concede defeat to life, don't bow to the years. The best maintenance product in this world is your self-discipline and not settling for less.

2. Manage your body.

I read news. An entrepreneur was unwell because of prolonged exertion and was found to have myocardial ischemia when he went to the hospital. The doctor asked him to be hospitalised immediately for observation, but he did not take it to heart. Who would have thought that he would pass away suddenly a few days later. Overnight, his prestigious education and wealthy career, which he had been proud of, were all in vain.

Health is 1, everything else is 0. Once the 1 is gone, there is no point in having more 0s. All the health that was overdrawn will have to be repaid a hundred times over afterwards. Every time you go to bed early, wake up early and eat on time, you are building up your energy for tomorrow.

3. Manage your emotions.

When you encounter trouble, your mind explodes, turning a very simple matter into a mess; arguing with your lover over a trivial matter, turning over old scores when you are not in the right mind,  without being conscious, opening your mouth and saying hurtful things ...... We have all been consumed by sudden emotions at some point because of something, and many of life's regrets and regrets are often the result of this. People who are truly mature know how to manage their emotions. They never lose their temper that they shouldn't, they don't rush things, they don't get upset because of anger, and they never use bad emotions to affect others.

4. Managing social circles.

After dealing with all kinds of people, you will slowly understand: friends, quality is much more important than quantity. If you are only concerned about the circle of drinking and dining, you will neglect those who treat you sincerely.

The worldly and hypocritical circle of people should be cut off; the negative circle of people who consume you should be shed; the circle of people who do not belong to you should be left. To sift through friends is to sort out your life, and to manage your circle is also the beginning of refining yourself. When the circle is clean, people are comfortable; when the relationship is comfortable, people are comfortable.

People can only be responsible for others if they are responsible for themselves first. Self-management is a lifelong lesson for all of us.

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1 Gradually getting savings

If you have read The Road to Financial Freedom, you will know that the first rule of happiness is to save money.

Old people love to save money, but in our generation, somehow, they have all become "negative" people. We borrow and overdraw for the future, and then use our present efforts to pay back our past spending.

Good saving habits will give you a sense of security and also give you more initiative in the world of "buying".

If you've graduated a few years ago and still don't have any savings, be sure to take note, but don't worry, start saving now.

2 Be able to get up early and go to bed early on your own initiative

The key to this one is "initiative".

A psychiatrist friend of mine once told me that the best way to treat depression is to give the patient a sense of control first.

I asked, "What is a sense of control?

He said, "It starts with taking the initiative to go to bed early and get up early.

Actually, going to bed early and waking up early is not so great. What is great is to take the initiative to go to bed early and wake up early for ten years.

In other words, you are not woken up by work or your boss, you want to go to bed early and get up early, you want to do something with your time in the morning.

Of course, it's also pretty awesome that you have to go to bed late and get up late on your own initiative for ten years as a whole.

3 Start accepting your imperfections

Everyone, in fact, has their own flaws.

But a person will focus more on his or her strengths and strategically ignore his or her weaknesses, which has two benefits.

Firstly, one can be more confident.

Secondly, one can put better energy into one's strengths.

In fact, the older one gets, the less likely one is to accept one's imperfections, but it is when one begins to accept one's imperfections that one will move towards perfection.

In one's twenties, one has to come to terms with one's imperfections.

In one's thirties, one accepts the imperfections of one's parents.

In one's forties one has to come to terms with the imperfections of one's children.

Imperfection is also a form of beauty.

4 Take the initiative to stop having friends with negative energy

The older you get, the more likely you are to see that negative people are actually lurking around you.

Many may be friends and relatives who are usually particularly close, but remember.

As you start to make the leap, you will find that you become more and more out of step with your old surroundings, and that those people you used to be very close to are instantly distant.

But don't worry, move on. Sometimes you don't have to cut off those friends, they will cut you off.

It's not a big deal, you just need to move on, and the brave will follow you on the road.

5 Start reading and exercising regularly

Apart from the dopamine production and the desire to learn, more importantly, you start to realise that there is more to life than just the little circle you were in.

A person who lies down all day will not know the kind of joy that comes from being on a treadmill.

Similarly, those who don't love reading will never understand how the world is seen by those who have knowledge in their brain.

6 Begin expressing yourself regularly

So, please start expressing and outputting regularly, for example, writing articles, which, at first, may not be read by many people, but as you write better and better and more, more people will read them.

7 Eat well at every meal

What is the most basic sign that a person is being alive?

The answer is to eat well at every meal.

You can take the initiative to choose some ingredients that will ensure you have three meals a day, with less sugar, lesser carbs and more high protein and vegetables.

The body is the carrier of the soul, when the body is finished, it's too late for everything.

8 Gradually start to be grateful for the world

I have a friend who send thank you to his loved ones everyday.

People can become particularly uncaring and ungrateful, taking everything for granted.

But once said, you feel the world is full of warmth, and really, if one is even grateful for every day one is alive, the state of being will change dramatically.

What's more, it's not just the person who is grateful that will actually benefit, it will be themselves.

Some studies have shown that a grateful person has a higher sense of well-being themselves than the person being thanked.

9 Understand the meaning of solitude

Solitude is the best period of appreciation, there will be a point when you do not have the accompaniment of your large circle of friends compared to now.

At the end of the day, people are meant to be alone. But there is one characteristic of masters: they are used to being alone, they enjoy it and they find a better version of themselves in it.

If you ask me what is the meaning of solitude, I think it is a kind of dialogue with oneself.

10 Knowing how to let go and not to cling to it

The last one is the most important, because almost all suffering comes from clinging to something or someone.

And as you begin to let go of that wrong person that you love so much

Letting go of that painful experience that you cannot change

Letting go of the things you hated but couldn't let go of

Congratulations, you've come out of it.

I hope this helps.

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Many people actually have a lot of time, but will just waste it. Most people will feel like they have nothing to do and rather spend time sleeping, playing games, watching TV, playing on mobile phones. And when they see other people succeed and make money, apart from being envious, they don’t think about why others succeed and how they make money.

Ma Yun once said:
"People who climb to the top of the mountain see the same scenery, and only people on the mountainside have various views."

Thinking about it carefully, many people still don't understand it. We can roughly divide people into these types of people:

1. Successful people are all hardworking, they never complain, they are always thinking about how to solve problems.

2. People who don’t have any pursuits. This kind of people may understand a bit of everything, but they don’t seem to understand anything. They always feel that hard work is meaningless. They feel that there is food and drink for the day, so why work so hard? Everyone has family members, and we all have to think about them. Birth, old age, sickness and death are not something we need to face.

Even if you are a selfish person, if you want to live a quality life, you can buy whatever other people want, and exchange whatever you want, and you live a miserable life every day, do you really feel comfortable?

3. People who don’t know how to live, maybe some people don’t understand that they should work hard, at least at the age when they need to work hard. It’s time to improve themselves, and they wasted their great youth in a muddleheaded way.

4. I understand the truth, but I feel that I am not capable enough. I believe that there are many people in this category, and they are willing to contribute and work hard, but they always feel that they are not capable enough, can't do well, and have no confidence in themselves. I feel that my education is low, I can't learn it by myself, and I can't reach the height of others.

This kind of people still doesn’t know enough about themselves, and they still have to learn to improve their cognitive abilities. At the very least, they need to understand that what others can do, we can do well through hard work. Don't use your low education, lack of ability, no capital, no rights, no connections, etc. as excuses. We have many successful cases without education, background or ability, but relying on our own hard work and perseverance to persevere and finally achieve success.

A person pays more attention to which aspect, which aspect he likes, will put more energy into that aspect. Many people like to play games and pay a lot of attention to games, but some people can make money through these , can change their own destiny, some people can only play it as entertainment. Where is the difference, how much thought have you put into it, how much have you paid for this matter, and what do you want to get through this matter.

I am also a game lover. The game I have always liked is League of Legends. I just like to play and find it interesting. It doesn’t matter if I win or lose. I just want to have fun. But some people are different. They regard it as their own dream or a career. Some people may say that playing games also requires talent and technology. In fact, these are far from enough. patience, persistence, dedication, We can take a look at how those e-sports players pay, practice and train day and night every day. Some can produce results, and some will disappear soon if you don't work hard! Even if you are talented.

We all want be appreciated by other people, but we will need to be equipped with proper skills in order to be appreciated.

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To the person I care about the most

To my family 

When I was young, I always felt that my parents were nagging and controlling too much; when I grew up, realized that only our parents are the ones who don’t ask for anything in return and desperately protect us. It is the love of my parents that makes me more firm on the way forward.

Dear parents, thank you for your careful upbringing and sheltering me from all worries. In the past, you were my biggest backer; in the future, I will be your best backer.

I want time to go slower, so that I can love you longer. It is my greatest wish that you are safe and sound ; my greatest peace of mind is that everything at home is safe. Remember to take good care of your body.

To my lover 

In my opinion, the most beautiful thing in the world is meeting the right you at the right time.

Along the way, we have had quarrels, misunderstandings, frictions, but fortunately, we have not given up on each other. We have experienced many things together, and finally we can be more considerate, tolerant, understanding, and successful with each other.

Thank you for making me believe that the world is worth it. Please also believe that no matter what kind of wind and rain you experience, I will stand firmly by your side. 

To my friend 

I am very happy to have you all by my side. We used to chat and sing together, cried and laughed together, and experienced the beauty and freshness together. Thank you for allowing me to be my truest self unscrupulously.

Dear friend, thank you for appearing in my life, giving me warmth and joy; thank you for doing your best to help me when I encounter difficulties.

Because of our busy schedule, we don't have many chances to get together often, but I believe that no matter how far away we are, we can't stop thinking about it in our hearts; no matter how busy the day is, it won't dilute the friendship between you and me. In the years to come, may we keep in touch and walk together warmly.

To myself 

You have cared about many people, but don't forget that you are the one who deserves to be loved.

In the face of difficulties, you know how to adjust your emotional state and live a more orderly life; in the face of failure, you are not discouraged and constantly update your cognition. thank myself, have experienced troughs and setbacks, but I treat the people around me more gently.

Dear self, thank you for all the kindness and beauty you bring to this world. Today, I also want to say to you: "You have worked hard!" From now on, don't forget to love yourself. There are infinite possibilities in the future, may your heart be full of hope, fearless and brave, go forward.

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Thank you for your persistence  

This year, I believe you have had many warm and happy moments, but also encountered some difficulties and ups and downs.

Maybe you've overcome the odds, or maybe you're still dealing with challenges, but thank you, you've kept going this year.

Thank you for the self who has always refused to admit defeat and never flinched, thank you for the self that has been accumulating strength and facing difficulties, and thank you for the self that is running with all its strength and getting more and more frustrated.

Say "Thank you" to yourself, and move on. Please believe that there will be a rainbow after the storm, and you will grow into a stronger self.

 

Thank you for knowing how to cherish yourself

This year, you, who are one year older, know more about cherishing.

Cherish your family, cherish your friends, cherish the present, and cherish every little happiness. Occasionally, when I feel tired, I feel very satisfied when I think that there is a place called home waiting for me behind me .

This year, you have learned not to leave your bad temper to your family, you have learned to prepare small surprises for your lover, and you have learned to accompany your children with more patience.

This year, thank you for knowing how to cherish. Please cherish this happy time, give them more warm support and companionship, and express your love and gratitude to them more.

 

Thank you for believing in love

This year, we went around and met, met, and got to know many people.

Some people are very lucky and finally met the person they like, and lived a sweet little life with the blessings of relatives and friends; Life; some people become a little anxious because the end of the year is approaching, but they are still determined to find happiness.

No matter what state you are in, remember to thank the self who has always "believed in love, expected love, and bravely loved".

Please believe: you are worthy of all the good things in the world, you will meet the most beautiful and suitable person, eat three meals and four seasons together, and enjoy joy and sweetness.

 

Thank you for not being perfect

This year, some plans may not be completed, but you don't have to blame yourself too much. In the long journey of life, it is inevitable that we will encounter some bottleneck periods. Facing setbacks is a crucial life lesson sometimes.

Gently say "it's okay" to yourself, and hug the imperfect self.

Don't be too frustrated when you encounter problems, don't care too much about other people's evaluations, take care of your own emotions, and think about your shining points. Give yourself a little more time and you will transform into a better version of yourself.

Don't be afraid that your life answer sheet is not full marks. A healthy and happy you is the perfect answer.

 

2023 is coming to an end. This year, you may have expressed your heartfelt thanks to many people, but don’t forget, you are the one who deserves the most thanks.

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Have you ever think of what is the meaning of life? You may not have time to think about it, especially when you are busy every day, and days pass without knowing it. When you calm down one day, you can't help but think about these questions, why are you busy every day, what are you busy with, what problems did you solve, or make yourself better?

I feel like I am lost and have no direction on some days, and sometimes I feel that I have a clear goal, but I don’t know how to go forward. Especially when there is nothing to do, and it feels meaningless to do anything. Many people may encounter this situation, but after a few days when the mood improves, they will return to the old way.

We should make some time for ourselves, sit down and think about the meaning of our life. Some people may think that this is a question that people will think about when they are depressed. We should learn to take the initiative to think about these issues. We don’t have to worry about wars, our three meals a day, or where even to live. What we have to think about is how we can live a better life, or make our family life better. We should be grateful that we can live in this beautiful era, and we should cherish this beautiful life even more. Why are other people living better and better but not me? It is our irresponsibility to ourselves and our irresponsibility to our family.

Just because we live in the best time, we don't know how to struggle, don't know how to work hard, As long as we have food and shelter every day, we forget our origins. Our ancestors used their lives and their youth to buy us a good time, but we eat and drink every day. We play games and watch TV shows with our mobile phones. Just forgetting to work hard and forget to learn and progress for a while is actually irresponsible to oneself.

We must learn to protect ourselves and learn to make ourselves stronger. This is our responsibility. We don't bully the weak, but we also don't allow others to bully us. What's wrong with us is that we lack fighting spirit, our ancestors survived such difficult times, but now we don't have the courage to stand up. The economy of others is getting better and better. It's time for us to wake up; we should at least be responsible for our own better lives.

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Don't always think about doing big things, just don't be greedy and set yourself too high a goal, a goal that is difficult to achieve. You can only do the small things in front of you down-to-earth. When you do the small things well and improve your ability, you will naturally be able to do big things well.

The reason is very simple, you are an ordinary office worker, if you are asked to be a leader and manager, obviously your ability is not up to it, and you will not be able to support a company or a single business. What you have to do is to do the things in front of you in a down-to-earth manner, improve your ability, and only when your quantitative accumulation reaches a certain level can there be a qualitative change.

Maybe some people will be unconvinced, and say that in the past, others can do business without knowing anything, and there are many people who are successful, but maybe you only see some people, and you may not see how many people went bankrupt.

Let's analyze the reasons first. First of all, the reform and opening up made business very easy, because there were very few people doing business. As long as you have the courage and ideas to do it, it is easy to make money. This is called an opportunity, but how many people can do it? Seeing and seizing opportunities, most of them can’t see them, and think they are speculative. People who can see opportunities have certain insights, which is what we often call cognition. If we put you at that time, you may not have such cognition, cognition is also a part of ability, when your ability is not enough, you will not see opportunities at all.

Another one is whether you can bear hardships and hard work, work hard to do it well, and persevere.

So we should not always feel that there is no opportunity. I believe that each of us will encounter good opportunities, but when you do not have the knowledge and ability, you cannot support the opportunities you encounter at all, and you will also miss the opportunities.

When the ability is not enough, when you can't see the opportunity, it means that your cognition is not enough, the ability is not strong enough. When your ability cognition reaches a certain level, you will find opportunities everywhere. 

As long as you work hard, learn, improve your cognition and enhance your ability, you will become someone else Be the object of envy and become what you want!

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