1. Popular people are generally lively, cheerful, versatile, and more eye-catching in the crowd. You don't have to please everyone in order to be popular.
2. Eighty percent of interpersonal
communication is the exchange of interests. When it's time to talk about
interests, don't talk about feelings. See this clearly, don't let
people treat you as an ATM, but you treat them as your best friend.
3. People will make all kinds of friends
because of loneliness and not adapting to the new environment. But as long
as your natures are different, the final outcome will inevitably be drifting
away.
4. No one likes to be educated. If it's
not for a true friend, don't make suggestions and criticisms
easily. The result is usually that the two sides do not get any
benefits, but turn against each other.
5. Good listening is the secret to maintaining
friendship.
6. Everyone grows up in different environments
and has different values, so they have different requirements for things
big and small in life. So don't judge others by yourself, you may
touch the bottom line of the other party- even if that bottom line is not
very important to you.
7. "Politeness is a trick that costs
nothing, and only a fool would be stingy." - Schopenhauer
8. You don't have to be popular, especially if
you're an introvert. Finding your own circle of friends and rhythm is
better than blindly imitating those successful books.
9. The ultimate goal of making friends is to
enhance the spiritual realm of both parties and beautify life. If your friendship
makes you miserable, please let go. A person can also be very happy.
10. Don't trust the other party's company and
commitment. You can keep it in mind, but don't rely entirely on
it. When you encounter difficulties, you can still go by yourself.
11. As the old saying goes, "It's easy to
add flowers to the cake, but hard to send charcoal in the snow." When you
are doing well, so-called friends come in doves, all of them are like your
best relatives; when you lose your light, they will leave. Remember
this, don't get drunk on so-called popularity. Most people aren't going to
be your real friends - they're not close to you because they like you, they're
close to you because they like themselves and want to promote themselves.
12. Don't just hang out with those friends who
are full of sweet words, praise and praise, and don't talk to you. Be
able to accommodate the existence of critical friends.
13. Childhood friendships are pure,
but social friendships are sometimes full of exploitation and deceit. You
don't know if the other person likes you or is jealous of you.
14. Ugly women are not without
benefits: Everyone tends to choose some people who can complement
themselves when making friends.
15. Make friends with those who are opposite
to your personality and have certain similarities as friends, which can
supplement the temperament and energy you are naturally lacking.
16. People will change. It is normal for
friends who have not seen each other for many years to have nothing to
say. As long as you grow up, it is impossible not to face this.
17. When making friends, it’s not just enough
to share similar interests, but also to slowly examine each other’s
values. Something deep inside him may be very different from yours.
18. Ideally, friendship should be
equal. But if your friend is disrespectful to you (no kidding),
shouts, or doesn't care about your feelings, they may be putting
themselves above you. For this situation, the best way is to disconnect.
19. A friend who goes through adversity
together is a friend forever. Therefore, instead of leaving your
friend in distress, you should be more attentive to him.
20. What kind of friends you make, what kind
of person you are generally. The flaws in the friends you hate may be in you
too. A lot of introspection is conducive to interpersonal harmony.
21. Once you identify a friend, remind
yourself to learn to tolerate.
22. The older you get, the more lonely you
will be. Because at this time people no longer have a common goal, and
the competition is more intense. Don't worry too much. Learn to be
alone.
23. Being bad-tempered or speaking harshly
will reduce points in the dating market. Although it is often natural, it
is difficult to maintain intimacy without restraint. Because it's usually
the closest people who hurt the most.
24. It is difficult for people who don't
understand or like reciprocity to have many friends.
25. Making friends also depends on fate, just
like love, which cannot be forced.
26. Time will tell who your true friends are.
27. The ancients said that it is enough to
have a confidant in life. In other words, it is very likely that you
will not have a soul friend in your life.
28. No matter how lively, smart, funny, and
attractive a person is at first sight, if he does not have a kind and
loving heart, he is not the best candidate for a good friend. You may
gradually find that ta doesn't care about your friend at all. Ta did not
feel sorry for you, but you misunderstood ta. In short, friends who
are excellent on one hand are not necessarily good on the other.
29. No matter how good a friend is, you may
hate him for a while, just like a mother sometimes wants to strangle her
child. Be patient for a while and don't be too blunt. In the
end, you may find out that you are actually the aunt, or that your
hormones are out of balance.
30. The more intimate people are, the easier
it is to hate and get bored. Refer to between parents. This deviation
must be consciously avoided.
31. If you do not understand the other party,
it is best not to judge rashly, which will expose your ignorance and
self-righteousness. If no one is asking for your opinion, it's best
to observe in silence first.
32. When someone is in a bad mood, don't ask
too many questions, pat him, then leave, and give him his personal space.
33. Most people in modern society don't like
to be known about their privacy, so it's safer not to take the initiative
to ask.
34. You don't need to change your position for
the sake of your friends, just say what you think. You may drift away from
this, or you may gain understanding, and nothing happens in the end. In
short, go with the flow.
35. Some sincere small gifts can bring your
friends a whole day of happiness. Don't be stingy with compliments,
especially if your friend is holding back.
36. Be polite to strangers. Of course, if
you are willing to treat others with enthusiasm and help others, that's
even better. Sometimes life will add unexpected joy because of this.
37. For those who are higher than you, it is
best to be cautious and not expose yourself too much. Remember to be
neither humble nor overbearing.
38. For those who are lower than you, it is
best to be kind, because it is not easy for everyone, and giving roses to
others has a lingering fragrance in your hands.
39. People who bring sunshine, hope and
spiritual strength to others will unconsciously surround themselves with a
large group of people. So, you can try to be that kind of person.
40. Do what you can, and you won't lose too
much of your favor. You must try your best to help. this point is very
important.
41. When you are with a large group of people,
don't put your phone outside.
42. Don't impose what you think is right on
others. People's thoughts are not easily changed, and this will only
produce counterproductive effects. If you come across such a person,
ignore it.
43. Don't have the desire to control others'
words and deeds, because everyone needs autonomy, and the most unbearable
thing is to lose the right to autonomy. If you find that your friend is
trying to control your attitude with praise, threats, judgment,
indifferent, etc., you should bring it up, or leave, and let him know:
this is wrong behavior.
44. Listen to half of what other people
say. There are always a lot of exaggeration and subjective will, not
necessarily accurate.
45. Take the praise and criticism of others
lightly, and don't rely on others to build your sense of self. Never lose
yourself in any relationship.
46. No matter how good the relationship is,
generally don't do other people's things without authorization. Maybe in
his heart, your relationship is not as good as you imagined, and your
behavior undoubtedly closed the door of the other party's heart.
47. When someone confides in you, know
that it's not that they don't know how to solve the problem, they just
want some reassurance and attention. Mistakes are common among people.
48. The intimate relationship between men and
women usually follows the principle that if they get together quickly, they
will also break up quickly. And the relationship that can really last for
a long time is usually the mutual attraction of souls, coupled with patient
maintenance.
49. No matter how good the relationship is, it
needs regular maintenance and deepening, otherwise it will change.
50. Put the most energy on improving your
value: whether it is appearance and figure, talent learning, or
personality charm. This is the basis of interpersonal attraction.
51. Don't promise others anything
easily. Once promised, you must do it to maintain your reputation.
52. There are all kinds of small circles in
life all the time. Don't be sad if you don't fit in. For you, these are
passing days and only seem important for a certain period of
time. The reason may be your vanity or loneliness. The same is true
for many people, for you, it is just a nodding acquaintance for a
while. Don't take it too seriously, and don't be afraid of offending
people.
53. In the workplace, reliability is a gold
medal of interpersonal relationship more than anything else.
54. You can pursue the trend, but don't be
biased by the trend that others tout; you can pursue gregariousness, but
don't stop studying hard because of your roommate's opinion. Your life is
still your own, and others will not bear the bitter fruit for you.
55. People who are not psychologically mature
tend to place too much emphasis on the so-called interpersonal
relationship, so that they spend too much energy on useless work.
56. The "social circle" is
useless. Those casual acquaintances are not worth the painstaking
maintenance.
57. Many times jokes can lead to bad
results. A joke that is acceptable to you may sound insulting to
others. Or you clearly regard the other party as a friend, but he feels
that you are looking down on him. Joking is a difficult skill.
58. Except for your parents, no one actually
cares about you so much, so don't feel sad because others are
neglected. Likewise, don't show off too much when you're proud -
you might piss off some acquaintances.
59. In general, the daily attitude is best to
be low-key, because people like people who are modest and don't boast
about themselves..
60. Be humble.
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