Some insights from life:

1. Have you noticed that when people start to show off, it is often the beginning of disasters. It means that when people are in good times, they don't have to show off too much.

We should all remain low profile. After all, there may be people in this world who really want you to live well, but most people don't want you to live better than him.

2. If one day the great luck arrives and makes you rich, you must always remind yourself: don’t forget the way you ran without an umbrella in those days of heavy rain; How did you survive the days of rain? Remember to help those who are running in the heavy rain and those who are wandering around, hungry and cold, help them, and love them

 

3. I have always liked this saying: the noblest punishment is silence, and the most reserved revenge is ignorance. Less entanglement in bad things, less anger for unworthy people, and make your life more exclusive. Learn to let go in order to move forward better. This world may seem complicated, but in essence it is still your world alone.

There are too many surprises in this world, and some things are simply not worthy of possession.

Have your emotions. Life is an experience, please enjoy it.

4. I saw this sentence that inexplicably encouraged me, and I hope it also encouraged you: I know you are very tired recently, it is the invisible physical and mental exhaustion, but please perseveres. Even if no one cares about it, it doesn't matter if your skills are inferior to others, don't let restlessness and anxiety ruin your lack of enthusiasm and concentration. Don't be greedy, we can't have everything, and don't be discouraged, we can't have nothing.

 

5. You don't have to compare yourself to others. You don't become an ostrich if you are a bat by nature. 

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Change starts bit by bit

Many people find it difficult to change. For example, from staying up late to going to bed early, from not exercising to exercising frequently. Yes, it is difficult for each of us to change ourselves, it takes willpower to change. It is difficult to get out of a comfortable environment. After all, it is easy to go from frugal to lazy, but difficult to go from extravagant to frugal.

If you let a person do nothing every day other than to eat and sleep, everyone can do it, but if a person is busy from morning to night every day, few people may be able to persist. I see other people do good things, but I can't do it myself. In fact, we don't need to envy others for many things; we have to learn to do it. We must learn to persist in doing one thing, We should not be giving up when we feel that there is no result. Don't be in a hurry to do something. Many people feel that they have worked hard, very hard, but have not achieved much.

Doing a little less every day is better than doing a lot of hard work in a day, and giving up after a few days. The two results are completely different. I remember that we learned the story of the tortoise and the hare when we were young. Most of us must like rabbits. We feel that we are the same as rabbits. We run fast, and we can stop and rest after running. Many people think that the rabbit lost the game because it overslept. Many people think that the real gap exists, and the tortoise will never be better than the rabbit. In fact, this is a misunderstanding. First of all, Rabbit lost the game due to pride and complacency. He always felt that he was better than others. He didn't need to put in a lot of effort, and he could win easily. The second is to lose patience. If the rabbit can hold back his temper and insist on running to the finish line before going to rest, he will never lose. And the tortoise just won in the determination to persevere patiently. Even if it doesn't win the game, we know from the strength on paper that the rabbit will definitely win the game. As long as the tortoise insists on completing the game, it will be respected by others, because it has persisted and made efforts. There will be miracles if you work hard and persevere. If the tortoise feels that he can't win at the beginning, he gives up, he doesn't even have a chance to win!

Each of us should not give up on ourselves first, or give up when we feel that we are not good enough. Although we can't do as well as others, we will try our best to persevere, and there will be miracles! Many people see that the gap between themselves and others is too large, so they choose to give up, and the gap with others will only become wider and wider. Let's not think about comparing ourselves with people who are better than us, but learn to compare with ourselves. Today is better than yesterday, and tomorrow is better than today. You are making progress. Persevere for a long time, and one day you will find that you will become better and better. Don't set your own goals too big, learn to set small goals for yourself, a goal that can be achieved every day, and you are improving every day. If you can be a little better than the previous day every day, it means that you are improving every day. We've all heard that more haste makes less speed.

 

No matter at work or in our life, we will find that only those who persevere for a long time can achieve good results, and those who say they want to change today will start working hard tomorrow, maybe tomorrow they will really start working hard, and they will work very hard They tried to change themselves, but it didn't take long for them to return to their old ways and become what they were before. It can't be said that they didn't work hard or make changes, but they didn't persevere. Without seeing any results, they will give up without motivation. On the contrary, some people make changes. We may not see any changes in him at all, but after a long time, you will find that he will undergo qualitative changes. Why, because he may only change a little bit, take a little time every day Come to learn, make a little change, persist for a long time, and a qualitative leap will occur.

 

In many cases, it is not that we do not have the ability to change ourselves, but that the goals we set for ourselves are too great, and we finally decide that we cannot achieve them and choose to give up. In fact, it is a very simple truth. For example, if we want to read a book, maybe you set a goal for yourself to finish reading the book in one day, but you read it very hard for a day and found that you didn’t read much at all. Work harder, read it for another night, and find that this is an impossible task, but it will make you feel very tired even to the extent of having no interest in reading in the future. If you insist on reading a little every day and keep going every day, you will find that you will learn new things every day and make progress every day. Even if the progress is small, you will not feel very strenuous, but you will only spend a small part of your time. There is no delay in anything else, as long as you persevere, and one day you will look back and find that you have read a lot of books. You have also made great progress.

 

I remember when I went to my grandma’s house when I was young, I always felt that it was very far away, and I always felt that I had walked for a long time. Every time I went, I will go to the house of my classmates who was close to my house to play for a while, then I go to play with other classmates. I found that it was not far away, and I think it was very interesting. I don't feel so tired after making the stops. In fact, it is a very simple principle. Divide a big goal into many small goals. Children like to play, and they can play with their classmates after walking for a while. With motivation, you won't feel so tired. The goal of our efforts in life is the same. If we divide the goal into many small goals and achieve them one by one, for example, after finishing studying today, you can reward yourself for playing a game for a while, and when you finish tomorrow, reward yourself with a drumstick. It's very interesting. I have a small goal every day. If I achieve the small goal, I will gain something. If I persist in it for a long time, I will find that I am very close to my big goal. People have to learn that in order to let them improve, and they also need to learn to relax properly, so that they can have the motivation to go further. If they just work hard, they will feel that there is no fun, and they will also lose motivation, and they will not be able to persevere and will easily give up!

 

Learn to seek gradual progress, and you may find changes in your life. If you push yourself too hard, it will be counterproductive and choose to give up instead!

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You must have peeled an onion, right?

 

When you peel the "onion" layer by layer, you will find that it has no core.

This is the opposite of the "avocado" personality, the "onion" personality.

As long as there is a little negative feedback from the outside world, it breaks down inside and feels bad.

There is this person, A.

A has always liked fashion. After graduation, she joined an internationally renowned clothing company and was employed in front-line sales.

When relatives and classmates knew that she had become a salesperson, they despise her because it seems degrading for a graduate student to be a salesperson, putting on shoes and trying on clothes for others!"

Some mean classmates deliberately came to the store to let her serve them, taking the opportunity to put her down.

Although her income was good, she couldn't stand the ridicule of others and chose to resign.

Then she went to a government agency and stayed in an administrative position for ten years.

And the colleagues who were "salesperson" like her at the beginning, one became a company executive and the other became a fashion blogger.

Looking at her boring life day after day, she began to regret it:

"If I didn't give up at the beginning and persisted, I don't know what will happen now?"

One is always the protagonist of his own, and he should not always play a supporting role in other people's dramas.

What others think is good may not be suitable for you; what others despise may not necessarily be wrong.

Others can only judge your life, but they will not pay for your sorrows and joys, let alone be responsible for your life. SO you are the one who can decide for yourself.

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Life is very tiring, if you are not tired now, you will be more tired in the future.

 

Life is like a season. After the spring, there will be winter. It is impossible to be prosperous all the time, and it is impossible to be full of flowers all the way.

Feel life, read life, think about your own things. When the words of a book seep into the heart and talk with the heart, when the soul runs into the book and communicates with the words. It is also a kind of happiness that the words can understand your heart, as if you have written yourself.

To be a pure person, let go of what you can’t bear; let go of what you can’t afford to hurt; ignore what you can’t figure out; let go of what you can’t hate. Life is a process of cultivation, why use this unyielding heart to look at people and things, trample yourself, and live up to the years.

The most difficult thing for a person to recognize is his own heart. Life is all about finding someone who is with you. There is nothing wrong with immature people being with immature people, and there is nothing wrong with mature people being with mature people, but there are many problems with mature people being with immature people.

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The Enneagram Personality You Should Know Yourself

Have you heard of the Enneagram? Which of the 9 personalities do you belong to?

In personality psychology, the Enneagram is one of the most practical and accurate tool to understand someone. Through the awareness of personality types, you can see the laws of your own thinking patterns, emotional patterns and behaviour patterns in the shortest time. This is an ancient wisdom, knowledge about personality classification, which has a history of more than 2,500 years.

The Enneagram reveals our innermost values. Maybe you want to ask, what's the point of knowing my Enneagram?

Discover yourself

The Enneagram is a unique tool for personal growth and self-transformation because it delves into our core values. Understanding what drives our behaviour allows us to observe our deep beliefs, attitudes and choices, gain a level of insight, discover who we really are, and clarify our purpose in life.

Type 1: Pursue justice. This type of personality is driven by strong principles and is extremely good. They yearn for a moral, just and good world. Some people make concerted efforts to reduce pollution; some people are meticulous about how to fold their towels and how to arrange their condiments.

Type 2: Pursue connections. Twos aspire to connect with others through love and nurturing relationships. They care about others and are good at identifying and meeting other people's needs.

Type 3: Pursue values. Threes aspire to shine, to be role models, and to demonstrate personal worth. Threes are confident and adaptable. There are many efficient and excellent people in the whole group of Threes, including business people, athletes, celebrities, and spiritual mentors.

Type 4: Seek approval. What drives Fours forward is the desire to know themselves thoroughly. They are very longing for the inner world and are willing to go deep into their emotions. In them, you can see a sense of tenacity and creativity.

Type 5: Seek clarity. Fives seek clarity and sufficient knowledge. These people have great insight and insight, and can bring together different ideas to generate new ideas, which are often very simple and amazing.

Type 6: Seek Guidance. Seeking guidance is the driving force behind the Six. Sixes at their best have a clear direction, trust themselves, and influence and lead others. Firm and steady, they are willing allies and powerful team builders.

Type 7: Seek freedom. The driving force behind Sevens is the pursuit of freedom and possibility, and based on this, Sevens are actually very easy people to get along with. They have a wide range of interests and love to try new things, and even something as simple as a trip to the Laundromat can seem like a big adventure to Sevens.

Type 8: Seek strength. The driving force behind Eights is a thirst for power and influence, they have an unbridled lifestyle, and they enjoy the risks in life. Because of this, they take a far-reaching way of doing things. Eights radiate energy that some call "leadership." Eights are actionists who value results and speak up.

Type 9: Seek harmony. The driving force behind Nines is the desire for harmony, the ability to see direct connections in all aspects of life. Nines feel a permanent inner peace and bring this peace and tranquillity into their dealings with the world. Their gift lies in making others feel at ease and creating a comfortable and pleasant environment.

Many described a sense of relief when they discovered their personality type. Most of us feel a sense of certainty when we finally know why we keep falling into the same hole. Through the Enneagram, we not only know that character flaws are not our fault, but we also gain some insight into our greatest possibilities and talents. Instead of berating ourselves for our shortcomings, we begin to appreciate the power of our true selves. We start to love ourselves for who we really are.

Recognize bad habits

Developing inner observation skills is a delicate matter, because our habits are directly manifested and cannot be noticed. From morning coffee to sleep, all of us are the product of our own habits every day. Our habits look from the outside as what we do every day in our lives; from the inside, they are dictated by our character.

Self-awareness dominates general self-knowledge, which is determined by personality type and personal life experiences. Self-knowledge is mostly unconscious, and when we just react instinctively without developing conscious thinking about the world around us, it can be difficult to make the right decisions to support our lives.

When you start to pay attention to these daily habits, to pay attention to what you are not doing subconsciously, you will hear the inner dialogue in your mind. Because of your habits, this conversation may have popped up everywhere in your life without you noticing it.

The words that pop into your head might be, "That's the way it is." You listen without judgment, without questioning. While your inner dialogue is unique, here is a list of common themes that each personality type has in unconscious dialogue.

Type 1: These people are highly self-critical, and their inner dialogue sounds a lot like what a parent would say. There's a strong sense of responsibility in it, and a lot of what they "have to" do in order to be a good person. The behavioural drive of Type Ones is largely driven by self-critical, responsible conversations.

Type 2: This type of person's internal dialogue often refers to people related to them. Twos' focus is on "others," focusing on their needs and how they can help. This makes them always take action, offer help, and hope that true love will come because of their efforts.

Type 3: These people are often unconsciously looking for ways to be the best they can be, no matter what they are doing. They listen to their families and take their advice—the advice that makes them successful. This allows Threes to get out and achieve in ways they find worthwhile.

Type 4: Immediately after taking an action or having an intimate conversation, Fours confirm their thoughts and think about what they would do out of feeling. This type of person's self-awareness is influenced by how they feel in the moment, and then they react based on their current self-perception—often negative comparisons or over-idealization.

Type 5: The inner dialogue of Fives is always looking for ways to learn more about a topic or situation, and always wanting to learn more. By digging deeper into knowledge, Fives hope to know enough to act confidently in the world.

Type 6: The inner workings of the Six is like a pendulum: swinging anxiously from side to side, always looking for the true source of safety, security, and guidance. Their anxiety-generated inner activity keeps them looking for a stable, safe place outside of themselves.

Type 7: Sevens are usually very positive in their self-talk, constantly finding fun and exhilarating excitement. Such people generally turn their minds quickly and seek satisfactory answers from all possibilities. They are not confined to small circles and are always looking for ways to find happiness.

Type 8: Eights have a habit of getting louder and louder in their inner dialogue, wanting every thought to sound bolder, tougher, and more confident. They make their inner dialogue confident and arrogant as a way to drown out the voices of sensitivity and doubt and assuage the fear that they are not strong enough.

Type 9: The Nines' internal dialogue is relatively positive ("I can do it, you can do it"), but also vaguely succumb to convention. They imagine good places in their current lives. This kind of conversation keeps them in a bubble of internal comfort, so they don't take big risks.

The first step to changing your inner self is to become aware of them. Aware of this, you can make a conscious effort to engage in some different self-talk to slowly change your internalized thoughts. This kind of change takes time, after all, you've lived your life the way you are for years. Studies have shown that changing any one habit can take months.

Enneagram also refers to nine personalities, each with their own strengths and weaknesses, so we can't say what the best ones are. Many people may think that the perfect personality is the best personality, but in fact the perfect personality refers to the desire of such people to pursue perfection. In other words, the perfect personality has the tendency to perfectionism.

Every personality type has both advantages and disadvantages, so we can find their own advantages in each personality.

The direction of integration (Growth)

1 → 7 → 5 → 8 → 2 → 4 → 1

The direction of disintegration (Stress)

3 → 6 → 9 → 3

The forward direction is the direction of personality sublimation, and the reverse direction is the direction of personality deterioration. For example, when a No. 2 is mentally healthy, the mental health characteristics of No. 4 will appear at the same time; if a No. 2 is mentally unhealthy, the mentally unhealthy characteristics of No. 8 will appear, and so on. The same is true in Article 2.

The integration direction of personality sublimation and the improvement performance of quality acquisition:

1 → 7: Let go of restraint, be tolerant and optimistic, dare to try, and get "cheerful";

7 → 5: Reduce impulsiveness, act calmly, think deeply, and gain "reason";

5 → 8: Be strong and courageous, be decisive and confident, do what you say, and gain "authority";

8 → 2: Warm and friendly, helpful, open-minded, and "innocent";

2 → 4: Persevere in your wishes, enjoy yourself, love others and yourself, and gain "humility";

4 → 1: Keeping one's own footing, distinguishing between right and wrong, objective and calm, and obtaining "balance";

3 → 6: Be responsible and careful, think twice, be loyal, and gain "loyalty";

6 → 9: Go with the flow, let go of anxiety, convince others, and gain "trust";

9 → 3: Clear goals, diligent and positive, self-challenge, and gain "decisiveness".

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The key to improving efficiency is not "time management", but ?

Manage energy, not time. 

People have a hard time managing their time, so the easiest way to be more productive is to learn to manage your energy and use all means to focus your energy on the most important tasks you want to accomplish.

When it comes to life-changing types of productivity, it's even more important to focus on your energy.

Think about ordinary people in today's society, what words would you use to describe them? Exhausted.

Why do we all seem so tired, busy, stressed, empty, and the same? Because we don't properly control our energy. We don’t pay much attention to how we organize our lives, how we treat our bodies, and how we interact with others in order to be more energetic.

Don't understand what I mean? Hear me explain

Why Your Efficiency Can't Be Improved

You probably have some kind of distant goal for your life, you want to start a business, you want to be a writer, you want to be an artist, you want to switch careers,etc.

It's not that you don't have the skills to succeed, you have it; it's not that you don't have the drive to move forward, you have it; it's not that the goal you want to achieve is inherently difficult, no. It's just time consuming.

I use the word "time consuming" because it expresses what happens when you take time to do something. It consumes energy. The less energy you have, the harder it will be to achieve a big goal.

When you commute an hour to work, then work eight hours while also taking care of your family (if you have one), making time with friends, and running errands, it's not surprising that you're not very motivated. With so many things to do every day, how can you still have the passion to pursue the goal above it all?

If you want to properly manage your energy, then you need to understand this:

Not all tasks are created equal.

People burn out because they fall down on the altar of efficiency and want to get everything done. Instead, you should focus your energy on the most important things in your life, put everything else second, and be willing to give up some things halfway through.

How did I manage my energy when I started my blog?

I usually write in the morning, not because I want to develop a morning habit. Who wants to get up early? I write in the morning because I know how my energy works. My day job requires both deep work, creative thinking and mundane administrative tasks.

I know I have to focus on deep work for the first 3-5 hours of the day because my "engine" stops running after that. So I spend 1-2 hours writing in the morning, then focus 2-3 hours on work, and then go to lunch.

I usually don't eat greasy food at noon. I don't look down on people who do this, just because these foods make me feel lazy and useless in the afternoon.

The afternoons are spent dealing with chores and then either going home or going to the gym, which I work out about 3 times a week. During the few days I was working out, I skipped home and went straight to the gym because I knew going home would create negative inertia. I'm pretty tired almost every time I go to the gym, but I'm going to work out anyway and I'm refreshed when it's over.

This gives me energy to spend with my family next, and the days off give me time to recover.

See what's going on here? Habits are not special in themselves, what matters is how you use them to direct your energy to a task or a goal.

Think about the things in your life where you spend unnecessary energy? How can you adjust to bring your life closer to the state you want? Let's take a look at some suggestions that might help.

Remove resistance in your life

Do you ever feel like you're very active, but actually don't do much?

This is irritating. You feel exhausted and don't know why. You feel this way because you let chores, annoyances, and other frivolous folly drain your energy.

Some of the countermeasures I took were:

• Set all your bills to pay automatically so you don't have to waste time paying them yourself

• I do chores in batches. I'd rather spend the whole day working on a whole batch than having to deal with a little chore every day.

• I learned to delegate more things.

• I have almost no interruptions for the first four hours of the day. No hanging out. No social media.

In your case, you want to think about what you've done, but you don't really need to, because there are so many. Once you realize that productivity is about the real results you create, not just staying active, you'll understand how much energy you're wasting and will learn to say "no" more.

The more you say no, the more energy you put into the task.

Pay attention to your diet

Changing my eating habits has had a huge impact on my efficiency.

Many people start the morning with a cup of coffee, cream, candy, or a carb-heavy snack like a donut. madness. Coffee itself is kosher, but eating a bunch of sugar can send your body's glucose levels surging.

Likewise, from a judgmental standpoint I can care less about your habits. What we're talking about here is usefulness.

There is a strong link between physical health and work productivity. You get that, but do we actually take it to heart or just talk about it?

I slept 8-10 hours a day and started intermittent fasting because I found my brain was clearer when I wasn't full. Now I eat between 1pm and 7pm and do yoga every day. I don't "diet" but eat a lot of protein and vegetables.

It's all about managing my energy. Of course, I want to look good and live longer, but honestly, I just do it to achieve my goals.

This is a great way to think about habits. You want to connect them to a higher purpose—a real desire that means a lot to you. A lot of people read productivity-enhancing articles and then become indifferent to the information they receive because there is no real reason for them to stick with it.

Take care of yourself so you can serve others while completing your own tasks.

Filter the surrounding information

Pay less attention to news and current affairs. After applying this seemingly simple trick, my energy skyrocketed. Some big things still affect me. It wasn't until I stopped following the media that I realized how negative the media was.

Sharing useless articles won't help you change the world, it's counterproductive. Stay away from that nonsense. This also applies to the people around you, negative people sucking your energy, sad and depressed people infecting you. Whether or not you can avoid it is up to you. I'm sure some of the people you care about are taking your life. Will you risk drowning trying to save them?

The world is full of nonsense. So I often immerse myself in an old novel, spending time with just a few like-minded people.

If you spend too much time in the virtual world, it drains your energy and erodes your soul. When looking at the way society works in terms of draining energy, opting out of it all makes sense.

You don't get more energy as you age. Not that you can't chase your dreams when you're old, but it's a lot harder then, so people have midlife crises. Not because they don't have time, but because they don't have the energy.

I'm 30 years old and I'm going to give it my all for the next thirty years because I only have so long. And time flies faster than I thought.

Let's start now.

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 What you worry about right now may not matter at all.

Have you ever wished you could go back in time and talk to your "self" back then? Have you ever wished to live again with all the memories and knowledge you have now?

People always get caught up in this mental cycle - remembering the past, thinking about the future. But how much do these memories and reflections actually benefit us?

You spend a lot of time reflecting on the past, but have you ever wondered what you can learn from your future self? Let’s make some guesses about what your “future you” expects from your “present you” so you can make better decisions in the moment.

We can start with the following ideas.

The things you worry about now aren't that scary in the long run

Whether it's the little troubles you face in your life, or those big setbacks and obstacles, it's the same, eventually they will pass, and you don't need to worry too much. Your gut knows this, but it's really hard to stay calm when you're deep in it.

I look back on all the stressful and worrying moments in my life, and the things that bothered me at the time are now largely unrecognizable.

People always recover from difficulties and blows. In the long run, I like to pamper myself with this quote from Marcus Aurelius: "If you had to do it, you would fight it with the same weapons of reason that are helping you fight the present today."

For the short term, I like this quote: "If it doesn't matter in the next 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes being angry about it."

I use these two sentences to remind myself that all the anxieties and worries I feel in the present moment are insignificant in the long run. This doesn't completely solve my problem, but it definitely helps.

You don't know what your potential is

In fact, people adapt very quickly to growth. I'm totally used to the life I have now, a life I couldn't have imagined a few years ago. I've had a very big transformation in the past few years, but I'm sure that the "me of the future" will still shock and surprise the "me of the present".

If you work hard enough long enough, you'll have a fast breakout period. When your action effort accumulates to a certain level, the growth will be multiplied. It feels like interest growth (compounding) on ​​an investment account.

In the beginning, the effort you put in is like putting in a tiny amount of money in early financing with little sign of growth. The changes are so small that sometimes people wonder why they are doing it.

Why bother trying to grow your business when you barely have any customers? Why try to start writing when you don't have a fan? What's the point of striving for a dream when you don't have any proof that it will work?

You start doing something because you have nothing better to do. So why not do it? You don't even have to worry about hitting the ceiling over time. Sincerely, good luck will come naturally.

You don't have to think about your whole life purpose right now

Psychologist Daniel Gilbert has a great book called Stumbling on Happiness.

There is a passage in the book: "We treat our future selves as we treat our children, spending a lot of time for them in the hope that they have a good future ... but often it backfires."

You work hard to make your future self happy. The problem is, you can only use your current perceptions to make decisions for your future self. In the future, you may have completely different tastes, beliefs, and interests than you do now.

You can never be sure if you've found the perfect life purpose, but that doesn't matter. Your goals aren't set in stone, and they don't need to be perfect. Goals can change as you develop.

But you can't determine your purpose in life through fantasies behind closed doors. You need to do more before the end result is clear. When you stop playing a passive role in your life, goals naturally emerge.

I'm going to spend more time traveling, don't be too tight, relax and enjoy life. I realized that I didn't need and no longer wanted to be as rich as I once hoped. I'm trying to be content and not just trying to climb up.

You have to learn to live in the moment

Life is never ending and has no end.

I thought trying to follow my dreams would give me that feeling and get me to a successful end. But once I get what I want, soon my emptiness will be filled. I would be happy, but fleeting.

I don't mean to say that chasing dreams is a waste of time. It's about the fact that we live in the moment, and no matter what you do, you can't avoid that fact.

We are all desperate for a better future that ends up being just another present. So what's the point of living if we don't enjoy the moment at all?

Even now, I try to remind myself of that. I do have more goals, more milestones, more new projects, but simply pursuing these successes will not solve the ultimate problem, never will. So I try to focus on the process of doing things, focus on the present, even if I keep thinking about the future in my head.

Stop begging for it. Life has no finish line. Some are only now. Stop chasing. Start embracing what is happening now. There will never be such a magical end point where you can completely stop and rest, lie down in your past glory and do nothing, learning to enjoy the moment is what matters.

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Sleep affects almost everything about us. Sleep and dreams are related to consciousness, cognition, thinking, desire, memory, and emotions. Physiologically, sleep and dreams are related to the immune system, metabolism, congenital diseases, and endocrine systems. Sleep is the single most effective thing we do every day to reset our brain and body health. Sleep is an extraordinary elixir that can help you live comfortably in old age and live longer.

Our 24/7 society seems to be slowly taking away our sleep, but at what cost?

All the vital health systems in the body and brain are miraculously enhanced during sleep, and are visibly compromised when you don't get enough sleep.

Unfortunately, sleep is not like a bank. Suppose that you are deprived of one night's sleep (8 hours). Then you are back to sleep on the second or even third night, and while you'll get more sleep on those nights, you'll never get back all the sleep you lost. In fact, you may only get back less than 50% of those 8 hours lost.

Therefore, you will be carrying this sleep debt all the time. In other words, you can't accumulate sleep debt over the course of a week and then hope to pay it all off over the weekend. No matter how hard you try, you'll never get back all the sleep you've lost. Week after week, this sleep debt escalates, like interest compounding on unpaid loans.

Therefore, we should think of sleep as the best life and health insurance you can get. Thankfully, sleep is largely pain-free, free as far as medical advice is concerned, and the benefits can be repeated every night if you choose to.

Sleep is the single most effective thing we do every day to reset our brain and body health. Sleep is an extraordinary elixir that can help you live comfortably in old age and live longer. Here's what we know about this panacea of ​​nature.

What happens if you get too little sleep?

Lack of sleep is associated with an increased risk of high blood pressure, heart attack, and/or stroke. Even an hour less sleep can be detrimental.

There is a global experiment that involves more than 1.5 billion people in 70 countries twice a year. You know the experiment, it's called Daylight Saving Time (Daylight Saving Time, a state mandated move forward one hour to save energy). According to a 2014 study published in the journal Open Heart that looked at more than 42,000 hospital admissions for heart attacks, in the spring, when we slept an hour less, heart attacks the next day increased by 24%.

Even hormonal changes can occur when you don't get enough sleep. According to a small study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) in 2011, young healthy men who slept only 4 hours a night ended up with testosterone levels comparable to those 10 years older.

In other words, lack of sleep, even just a few nights, can "age" a man for more than a decade in terms of hormonal vitality. The same damage to a woman's reproductive health and hormonal status occurs due to lack of sleep.

There is also a strong relationship between sleep health and immune health. People who slept less than seven hours a night were nearly three times more likely to be infected with the common cold.

If you don't get enough sleep in the week before your annual flu shot, you may develop less than 50 percent of the required antibody response, making the vaccine much less effective.

Lack of sleep significantly increases anxiety and is associated with higher rates of depression. More recently, studies have shown that sleep deprivation significantly increases the chances of suicidal thoughts, suicide planning, and tragic suicide.

In contrast, proper sleep will bring quite significant health benefits in countless ways, developing our memory and learning abilities, and improving our immunity, physical fitness, and mental health.

One benefit of the Covid-19 pandemic that many (though not all) have experienced is greater freedom in their sleep time. When we had to commute and drop our kids to school, we were forced into an early morning routine.

With greater sleep freedom, we're basically seeing the "revenge of the night owls" as they start to sleep on their natural, 24-hour biological rhythm. I just hope this freedom is still there as we start to emerge from this Covid-19 pandemic.

How much sleep do we need?

Based on tens of thousands of scientific studies, most adults should aim for seven to nine hours of sleep a night. In fact, authoritative health agencies, such as the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), now require the average adult to get at least seven hours of sleep.

Based on abundant evidence, this reasoning is sound. For example, consistently getting less than six hours of sleep has been linked to a number of health conditions, including certain cancers, Alzheimer's disease, diabetes, and being overweight or obese.

Can sleep keep your brain healthy?

Lack of sleep is fast becoming one of the lifestyle factors most likely to influence your risk of Alzheimer's disease. Those with sleep disorders such as insomnia and sleep apnea, are significantly more likely to develop Alzheimer's disease.

In the Alzheimer's patients we see, there is a sticky, toxic protein that builds up in their brains called beta-amyloid. Along with another toxic protein called tau, it is a key component of the Alzheimer's disease cascade.

We now know that sleep deprivation is a causal factor leading to greater accumulation of beta-amyloid in the brain, establishing a pathway for Alzheimer's disease.

Prioritizing your sleep in youth and middle age may help reduce your risk of Alzheimer's, or at least slow its onset later in life. Even if you've been ignoring sleep until now, it's not too late to start. Clinical studies have shown that successfully treating sleep disturbances in middle-aged and older adults can delay the onset of dementia by 10 years.

Does caffeine really keep me awake?

A key factor in helping you fall asleep and then stay asleep throughout the night involves a chemical called adenosine. Think of adenosine as a sleepy chemical that gradually builds up in the brain throughout the day. The longer you stay awake, the more it builds up and the more sleepy you feel. Most of us experience a strong urge to sleep when adenosine levels peak after 12 to 16 hours of waking hours.

Because you can mute adenosine's healthy sleep signals with coffee. Caffeine, a psychoactive drug, enters your brain and basically blocks the receptors for adenosine. As a result, you lose the sleepy signal, making sleep much less likely to occur, and even if it does, it's easy to wake up halfway through.

The caffeine concentration peaks after about 30 minutes. The problem is, caffeine persists, and for a long time. In medicine, the term "half-life" is used when discussing the effects of a drug. Half-life refers to the time it takes your body to completely clear 50% of a drug dose.

For most people, the half-life of caffeine is 5 to 6 hours. Therefore, its quarter-life is between 10 and 12 hours. So if you have a cup of coffee at 2pm, 25% of the caffeine is still wandering around in your brain at midnight. Drinking coffee at 2 p.m. is the equivalent of tucking yourself into bed at midnight, but just before that, you gulp down a quarter of a cup of hot coffee in hopes of getting a good night’s sleep. This cannot happen.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against caffeine I love coffee. In fact, coffee has been linked to many health benefits, although this may be due to the powerful antioxidants in the beans rather than the caffeine itself. But like many things, when it comes to caffeine, the dose (and timing) determines the toxicity. For most people, limiting caffeine to one to three cups a day and stopping caffeine before noon will help you sleep better.

Can sleep keep you slim?

Have you noticed that when your sleep is so short, you want to eat more? We know why. Lack of sleep suppresses a hormone that signals food gratification, but increases the concentration of the hormone gastrin, which makes you feel hungry. Even though you're full and full, you're still going to want more. It's a proven secret for weight gain in adults and children.

Add all this together, and it becomes increasingly clear that the insomnia epidemic may be a key factor plaguing many obesity epidemics, along with the proliferation of processed foods, greater consumption, and an increase in sedentary behaviours.

Prioritizing sleep is one of the most powerful ways to regain control of your weight and waistline.

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10 strategies to help you get a good night's sleep.

Focus on:

Sleeping 8 hours a day won't affect productivity, but is essential for peak performance

If you don't take care of yourself, your life will be too short

No one sleeps less is okay, you are not an exception

Don't leave your phone next to you when you sleep

Get up early and exercise

Read and write a diary before bed

Some people are proud of themselves on getting less sleep. Because it proves that they are hardworking and determined.

 

And me?

I'm proud of the complete opposite.

We ordinary people only have so much energy to devote to our work, our relationships, and ourselves. Smart people know this and protect it carefully. Smart people know that getting 7-8 hours of sleep each night won't affect their productivity, but it's critical to working at their best.

1.    Beware of overtiredness

Arianna Huffington has quietly grown The Huffington Post into a behemoth, with about 200 million monthly unique visitors and 17 international editions. Her stake in The Huffington Post is worth an estimated $21 million. But there was a time when Arianna Huffington wielded wealth and power at the expense of living a good life. She regularly worked 18+ hours a day, seven days a week, for years - and then the sleep tax collector came. One day, Arianna Huffington fell headfirst on her home office desk, broke her cheekbone, and woke up in a pool of blood. Doctors at the hospital examined her several times.

Diagnosis? Excessive fatigue

Arianna is different from many overworked people. After this tragic incident, she looked at herself in the mirror and did one thing that too many people can't: she began to change. She realizes that life isn't all about work, putting your head down, exchanging sleep for a few more phone calls, watching a few extra minutes of TV, or meeting important people, there's nothing glamorous about them. So, despite being at her peak, both financially and professionally, she left The Huffington Post in search of what she called a "third yardstick" of success and launched Thrive Global, Through this project, she began to use the resources of scientific and philosophical wisdom to combat the growing epidemic of stress and burnout.

You can work hard, but also made sure to "take good care of yourself. Life is too short if we don't take care of ourselves, if we don't want to make changes, our lives will be shortened.

2.    You are not an exception

People say I can do just fine with just four or five hours of sleep. No, you don't. You say, I am an exception. No, you are not.

In a study conducted by scientists in the University of Pennsylvania, participants were divided into four groups: those who were sleep-deprived for up to 88 hours, and those who were allowed to sleep at night. 4 hours of sleep, one group slept 6 hours per night, and the last group slept 8 hours per night. The study made two important findings. One is that the physical damage in the 4-hour sleep group and the 6-hour sleep group was the same as that in the sleep deprivation group.

3.    Don't leave your phone next to you when you sleep

If your alarm is a real alarm and not a time app, your phone can be put in another room, and if your phone is in another room, you can't look at it while you sleep at night .

This means you won't know if you've received a text or email. This means that you won't have to scroll through social media all the time. That means you won't be staring at the screen.

4.    get up early

The morning is the most productive time of the day—the time when no one else is up, before you go out, and you won’t be disturbed or distracted. If we get up early, we are free.

Of course, when you wake up in the sun, you're more likely to relax in the early morning sun. man is born to work at sunrise and rest at sunset. "If you want to know the secret of success, if you want to execute on a higher level, you have to get into the habit of getting up early. You have to realize that you are at your best when you are in rhythm with the sun. .

5.    Get active every day

I walk and run almost once every 2 days. Doing this has nothing to do with burning calories or raising my heart rate or training for a marathon. "It's really stupid to work on building muscles, widening shoulders, and strengthening lung capacity.  The purpose of exercise is simply to "wear the body down" so we can get a good night's sleep afterward. .

Physical activity leads to better sleep, which promotes physical activity, which then leads to better sleep, creating a virtuous cycle. In "Why We Sleep," Walker wrote: "It's clear that a sedentary life doesn't contribute to good sleep, and we should all try to get some level of regular exercise, which not only helps keep our bodies fit and healthy," Walker wrote. , but also helps to ensure the quantity and quality of sleep.

6.    Go to sleep

You don't feel like an early bird...but it's mostly because you don't go to bed early enough.

When you're exhausted and worn out, when you've had a long day and all you want to do is just relax on the couch? This is exactly when you need a little more self-control to get up and go to sleep.

 A morning routine is fine, but a bedtime routine is also important. Relaxation is necessary.

7.    Write a diary before bed

"Is there anything better than seeing what one does all day? Think, sleep after this self-examination.

Here's what it takes to get a good night's sleep. A state of mind free from clutter. This is a state that will never be out of reach, as there are so many opportunities every day to throw you into confusion or thinking - responsibilities, dysfunctional jobs that make you stressful, contentious relationships, realities that don't meet your expectations . But journaling is a unique tool that helps us organize our thoughts.

Don't close your tired eyes and go to sleep until you've reviewed what you've done throughout the day: "What did I do wrong? What did I do? What responsibilities are left unfinished?" your own actions, then condemn yourself for those vile [or cowardly] actions, but also rejoice in those that are well done.

8.    Treat the weekend equally

It hardly matters what the problem is, and the solutions tend to be consistent routines. If you tell a sleep expert you're not sleeping well, here's what they recommend. If you tell a psychiatrist that you've been anxious all the time, that's their first recommendation. If you tell a productivity guru that your work output isn't what you want, that's where they start to tackle the problem. Tell the trainer that your dog is naughty, and that's where they start to fix the problem. Tell the strength trainer you want to get stronger, tell the writer you want to write better, tell the stoic you want to end the day in a calmer, more peaceful state—a consistent routine is the answer.

No matter which practice you implement, the best way to improve your sleep is to do it consistently 7 days a week.

9.    Napping can refresh the mind

Arianna Huffington's story inspired me that sleep loss not only reduces the quality of life...it even takes it. People get depressed when they don't sleep. will be exhausted. Will pass out in the bathroom and hit his head. "Sleep is the source of all health and energy". "Sleep is the interest we pay on that capital which is recovered at the time of death: the higher the rate of interest, the more timely the payment, the later the date of repayment."

If you want to live a good and long life, go to bed now, not later

10.  invest in sleep

When I made a little money from working for a few years, I went to the cheapest mattress store and bought the cheapest mattress, and I slept on it for almost ten years. I can't remember exactly when I decided to upgrade my mattress, but it was long after I could afford it. The point is: if sleep has benefits of one kind or another, and if it does save lives, then investing in sleep makes sense. Maybe that investment is buying a better mattress. Maybe bite the bullet and buy a reclining seat on an international flight. Figure out what makes you sleep better and consider it a good deal.

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