This is something interesting
to share with you guys.
Two days ago, when I got off
work and took the lift, I met two girls in their twenties.
A girl with short hair was
leaning against the corner of the lift, holding her forehead with her hand,
looking very uncomfortable.
Another girl with a ponytail standing
next to the short-haired girl:
"Did you know? XXX is
here to shoot a TV series!"
"I saw from the photos
that XXX is really handsome!"
"Have you watched the TV
series that went viral recently?"
"The male protagonist in
it is really good-looking, and he is on par with XXX!"
The short-haired girl was
silent, not saying a word.
The ponytail girl finally
asked, "Why don't you talk?"
The short-haired girl replied,
"Does what you just said have anything to do with me? I only care when my
headache will heal."
This seemingly impolite
answer hit me.
One of the trademarks of maturity understands that 99%
of the things that happen every day are meaningless to us and others.
Indeed.
We often spend our time on
99% of useless things, but ignore that 1%, which is the most worthy of
attention.
Because in our life, we have
to understand one truth:
There needs to be a clear
boundary between people. This boundary is not only the physical distance to be
maintained, but also the psychological distance.
It can be summed up in two
sentences:
Your own life is your own,
nothing to do with others;
Other people's lives belong
to others, not yours.
I have a colleague, A, who
often complains to me that life is so tiring.
"I feel exhausted after
a day, and I come home from work and lie down on the sofa, feeling like I
haven't accomplished much all day."
Why?
Because she came to the
company at nine o'clock in the morning, turned on the computer, she saw some
tabloids in her news feed, thinking that that was not bad, clicked on it and took
a look, 10 minutes have passed.
Then she was typing non-stop,
and heard colleague B discussing colleague C's gossip, oh my, she also heard
about this, she had to chat.
Then she went on to rush out
the monthly report, her colleague sitting in front of her stuck her head out:
"How about this lipstick?", and then she became interested again...
Every move of the outside
world can disrupt her rhythm, and at the end of the day, of course, she feels
tired and fruitless.
Baumeister, an American
psychologist, once put forward a famous theory called
"self-depletion".
The so-called self-depletion
means that you seem to have done nothing, but every choice and struggle you
make is depleting your psychological energy.
With every ounce of mental
energy you expend, your execution decreases.
This is why it is widely
believed that the simpler people are more efficient, and the more restrained
people go further.
Because they can stay away
from the things that are 99% irrelevant to them and spend time on more
important things.
99% are useless, so what is 1% of life?
This is 1% of life.
Give up 99% of irrelevant information, don’t let
others interfere in your life, and don’t let outside disputes and relationships
disrupt your rhythm, and spend your time on more worthwhile things.
Only this way will you be
truly efficient and your heart will enjoy real peace.
I have a principle called:
Never intervene easily in the private life of others. "
A person's true maturity is
to understand that other people's lives have nothing to do with their own.
All the behaviours that try
to interfere in the lives of others are looking for trouble for each other.
As Jack Ma said:
"When I used to worry
about world peace, I had a bad time;
Later, when worrying about
others, many are unhappy;
Until I stopped worrying about things that had nothing to do with me, and suddenly found myself getting better and better. "
SO the meaning of 1% of life is:
Do not intervene in other people's lives, do not
impose your own ideas on others.
Only this way can you achieve true minimalism and
enjoy a truly pure life.
The space of a person's mind is limited, and only by removing the unnecessary, can it be filled with more important parts.
Forget
irrelevant people and things, and put your time and energy into the most
important 1%.
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