As the year-end approaches, people always like to summarize the year. What have they accomplished this year, and what goals have they not yet achieved? At the beginning of the year, they are more enthusiastic about setting new goals. Regardless of whether they will take action, goals should still be set. What if they are achieved?
2024 just passed, some people lament
that they haven't done anything yet, while others have reaped a lot. If you
want to "restart your life" in the new year and make your future self
grateful for your present self, then you need to start from this moment: refuse
to slack off and plan ahead. 2025 has just begun, and how you spend it is
entirely up to you.
1.Health is wealth.
A former colleague posted on social
media: "In 2024, the place I visited most often was the hospital. Whether
it was flu, cold, or any other virus, I caught them all. Each time, it cost me
not only physical discomfort but also enough money to travel to hospital several
times. So, taking care of your health is the top priority for 2025."
Many people reach middle age with little
money and lots of health problems. Recently, I heard some heartbreaking news.
A cancer patient posted on online:
"Hey guys, I finally found freedom." B majored in broadcasting in
college but loved traveling and even obtained a tour guide license. In March
2018, she found a job at a travel agency in Shanghai. However, in July, she was
diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia. She spent the next five years
fighting cancer. The family spent a lot of money on her treatment, borrowing
from all their relatives. Her father even donated his bone marrow twice. In
order to provide better nutrition for his daughter, her father, who couldn't
cook at all, became a great cook. Finally, B's condition worsened, and despite
efforts to save her, she left her parents who loved her the most.
Tomorrow and accidents, we really don't know which will come
first.
All we can do is take care of ourselves
while we are still healthy.
2.Beyond physical health, another important aspect is to
strive to earn money.
Regardless of one's financial situation
last year, in the new year, one must strive to earn money. The primary source
is to excel in your main job. Recently, I chatted with a friend named Q who had
recently received a promotion and a raise. She shared her experience:
"There is no other way but to excel in your profession." Q was
originally just a copywriter. Because she enjoyed writing and creativity, she
joined her current company. At first, her copywriting didn't grab attention and
she was often scolded by her superiors. But Q was tenacious. She kept studying
excellent cases and summarizing the logic of successful planning cases. As a
result, the number of revisions to her proposals decreased, and the number of
compliments from clients increased. Finally, her efforts paid off. At the end
of the year, she received a 30% increase in salary.
For most ordinary people, increasing
income through their main job is still the main source. It can serve as a
safety net and maintain the baseline of income. At the very least, it can rely
on one's "irreplaceability" to avoid being laid off when the
environment is not good. In addition, doing well in side jobs is equally important.
If promotion and salary increases are difficult in middle age, then engaging in
side jobs can also be a way to increase income.
3.Dealing with relationships around you: Learn to release
love and also learn to let go.
Harvard conducted a 75-year study
tracking 724 men and concluded that true happiness is actually a mindset that
comes from within. A portion of this mindset comes from achieving self-worth,
while another part comes from healthy relationships with others.
A netizen, Moon, shared a story about
her aunt who was unhappy for a period of time. In her aunt's own words, she was
a "woman with a tough life." As a wife, her husband often worked
overtime and didn't come home. When she wanted to talk to him, he was not
available, and when they did meet, they often argued.
As a mother, her son also avoided her,
locking himself in his room whenever he was home, with very little
communication between them. However, according to her husband and son, the
situation was completely different: her husband didn't like coming home because
every time he did, his wife would either nitpick at him or complain, emitting
negative energy. And her son didn't like to communicate with her because his
mother was not gentle and often used a serious tone to criticize him.
Later, the aunt met a family therapist.
After explaining the situation at home, the therapist offered her some advice:
"The reason for the coldness between family members is because they don't
feel loved. As a woman in the family, you should be the lubricant. From today onwards,
learn to release love to those around you. Start with praising your husband and
caring for your children."
After listening to the therapist's
advice, the aunt went home and actively shared interesting things that happened
during the day with her husband and gently called her son to dinner in the
evening. After some time, she noticed a change in the atmosphere at home. Her
husband started coming home more often, and her son enjoyed talking to her.
Relationships between people are dynamic. If you act rigidly, you will receive
indifference, but if you give warmth, you will receive love. And when we start
to change, the relationships around us will change too.
There was a post about a friend who
always poured cold water on her. She distanced herself from this friend. Much
later, when asked why she no longer contacted her, she said, "I can't
change her personality, so I had to change the relationship between us."
There's a saying I agree with: "The secret to happiness is to place
yourself in healthy relationships."
In 2025, try to assess the relationships
around you. Cherish those who care about you, and bravely distance yourself from
those who make you unhappy.
4.Never stop reading, traveling, and exercising.
"A person not only has this life
but also should have a poetic world." Beyond material life, we also need
to enrich our spirits. In doing so, boredom becomes interesting.
Reading and traveling are the best
choices for enriching the spirit. Reading is a journey of the mind, and
traveling is reading for the body. A friend named C always seems full of
energy, and someone asked her for the secret to her zest for life. She said,
"There's no other reason than having an escape route." While at work,
she feels drained and frustrated like everyone else, but when the weekend
comes, she either stays at home and reads all morning or flies to another city
for the weekend. Just the thought of going to see the snowy mountains sweeps
away her worries.
Every time she returns from a trip, the
energy she brings back is enough to sustain her for a long time.
And if you really can't find a hobby,
why not try exercising?
V is a running enthusiast who once
shared his experience in a book. In 2005, he was diagnosed with diabetes. The
doctor told him, "Diabetes is incurable. You need to take medication for
the rest of your life or rely on insulin." After hearing this news, he
became depressed and even developed depression.
At the lowest point, a friend advised
him to go out, take a walk, run, and breathe fresh air. With a try-it-out
attitude, V insisted on going to the nearby park for a few steps every day.
After six months, not only did his weight decrease, but he also no longer
needed to take medication. He himself exclaimed: Running completely changed my
life.
If you feel that your life is a mess
right now, consider sticking to exercise for a while. Even if it doesn't solve
all your problems, at least it can change your mental state.
"There are three things in life
that cannot be saved. The first is reading, the second is traveling, and the
third is exercising." I strongly agree with this. Besides work, one should
always have something to rely on spiritually, even if it's just something small
like running.
In 2025, in addition to working hard,
make sure to enrich your spirit. It could be learning a new skill or
cultivating a hobby. Both the body and the soul should be on the move. Life can
indeed be designed. No matter what hand you were dealt initially, without
planning, life is like a pile of sand. But with clear plans and specific
actions, life can be aggregated into a tower, allowing you to go further.
In the new year, if you want to restart
your life and change yourself, you must adhere to self-discipline and never be
lazy or give up. Keep healthy. Physical
health is paramount. Even if other goals are not achieved, being healthy
and free from illness, with all health indicators in order, is already
commendable.
Work hard and earn money.
Whenever possible, maintain your ability to work and earn money. This is the
capital for adults to settle down.
Handle relationships with those around you. Learn to love others and let yourself be loved, placing
yourself in healthy relationships and staying away from relationships that
drain you.
Enrich yourself. If you have no money, read
more; if you have money, travel more. Not only can this broaden your horizons,
but it can also enrich your soul.
"A day's labor is a day's wage;
persistence brings success."
The process of transformation may be
difficult, but the fruits will be sweet.
What are your goals or plans for 2025?
Feel free to share them in the comments, and next year on this day, we'll check
back together.
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