Do you feel happy spending money?

Not necessarily.

Some people feel distressed and anxious every time they spend money, because they think that they spend money again. People who do not feel stressed spending money are not as many as what we think.

Spending money is somehow shaping us inherently.

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Every cent spent is defining our life

One of the popular marketing strategies is to entice us to treat ourselves better.

I chatted with my friend the other day, and she told me something very interesting, that she was sorting out her expenses over the past few years. She found that her expenditure was not as much as she imagined, and the place where she spent the money was very different from what she had expected.

At first, she felt that she had spent a lot of money on books and courses, but eventually found that the money spent on social networking was actually the most, and the money for books and courses only occupied a small part of the total expenditure.

This prompted her to start thinking: what kind of person she is and what encouraged her to make those decisions.

Indeed, the money we spend is inherently shaping us, allowing us to better understand who we are.

A person who loves to eat will study which store has delicious food every month, and the cost of food will be high and a person who loves freedom and scenery will spend more money on travel.

We may think that it is who I think I am, that is why I have a certain consumerism inclination. In fact, consumption is also affecting us in some way.

A person who always buys cheaper products due to discount availability, and a person who pays attention to product quality and beauty, will naturally have a different temperament.

There is no right or wrong but to state that the impact of consumption is indeed subtle.

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The more you know how to spend money, the more you know who you are

Some people feel that they are always spending money, but is there really such a thing as “Wasting money”?

It can be said that this is more about how well a person understands oneself.

When I clearly know who I am, what kind of things I need, what kind of living environment I need, and what products to use, then the consumption decision is naturally very clear.

It is not because a person has insufficient self-control and spends money indiscriminately, but because he does not know what he wants, so he can only spend money blindly. Therefore, a person who knows how to spend money will naturally choose a product that suits him well, whether it is a simple shower gel, a piece of clothing, or even a house.

Of course, it's not that the more expensive the better, but the best for you at the moment.

Take for example, a piece of clothing. If it feels comfortable to wear and can highlight one's own personality, then it is suitable, regardless of the price. It can cheap or expensive.

At the same time, if the money is spent, and it does not make me more aware of what kind of person I am and what I need, then it is indeed a waste of money.

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The philosophy of spending money is also the philosophy of making money

Rich people like to say “People who don't know how to spend money won't make money.”

This sentence makes sense for me. When you can't even spend money, naturally you have no motivation to make money, and you don't know how to make better use of money.

And spending money is like making money, the simpler the more powerful.

It has nothing to do with price or income, just about who I am.

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"Money" is the best gauge to judge a person

When you want to know a person, you can roughly tell what kind of person it is by looking at his attitude towards money.

People who have you in their mind will not care about the money spent on you.

People who don't have you in their minds will calculate everything. Not only do they not give you money, they also want to make some money from you. In the eyes of these people, money is more important than relationships!

And a person's attitude towards money reveals his character! Borrow money to see people's hearts, pay back to see character, make money to see humanity!

As the saying goes: See the true love in adversity, and if you want to know if the relationship between someone is good or bad, just borrow money to know.

I once had a colleague who was about to get married. He borrowed money from me when he was short of funds. At that time, my colleague said that he would return the money to me after the happy event.

But in the end the money was returned to me two years later and our relationship went sour.

When I haven’t lent him the money, I felt that this colleague was humble and had a good character, so I lent it to him. And after lending the money, I didn't chase him to return the money, only reminded twice.

I put myself in the shoes of my colleagues whom is still young without much savings and I only lent him my spare cash.

However, one day I heard about this colleague who borrowed money slandering me behind my back.

I was defamed and attacked by lending money to others, so I stopped doing it. I went to him to ask him for the money. He apologized and said that he would pay back the money as soon as possible.

Everyone may have helped others intentionally or unintentionally, or "thinking" that they have helped others, but not all people will appreciate you after helping, and some even become enemies because of their help.

Some people will not reciprocate while they receive assistance from others. We must know how to choose the ones who are nice to us and vice versa.

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Things I learnt from the past 10 years of work

1. If one goes to other people's homes, and when the hosts suggest to drink tea or watch TV, it is time to say goodbye. People always remind others to do something trivial when they feel that they have nothing to say or do.

2. When one is reporting to their bosses, the boss is not looking at you and tapping his/her fingers on the table mean he/she is not satisfied with the report. But if he/she is initially shaking his/her legs under the table when you enter; while you were talking, his feet suddenly stopped shaking, then he has developed a keen interest in your words.

3. When talking to a new acquaintance, his/her arms are always folded, which shows that he/she is still defensive against you, so it is best to be cautious.

4. At the social gathering, beware of the person who toasts to you frequently. It is either he/she needs your help or he/she is hostile to you.

5. A person who is always boasting is just the opposite of his boastful appearance. He is an extremely inferior person. He only used it to cover up his inner inferiority complex.

6. When clinking glasses with others at a social event, your own glass must be lower than that of the other party, especially if the other party is an elder or leader.

7. If you ask someone a question and they didn’t answer you, stop asking.

8. When someone criticizes you, even if he is wrong, don't refute it first, wait for everyone to calm down before explaining.

9. You will meet all kinds of people in life. You can't be pleasing everyone, but one thing is universal: how you treat others, it will be reciprocal.

10. To survive in this world, one must first learn the word "endure".

11. Don't tell your secrets to everyone.

12. Do not gossip about work with colleagues. Your unintentional remarks may become evidence for others attack you.

13. There are real friends, but don’t know if you are lucky enough to meet them. Regardless of whether you have encountered it or not, don't backstab anyone.

14. When loaning money to others, you must factor in the worst scenario, thinking you won’t get the money back. Therefore, the loaned money must always be within the range that you can bear.

15. Among best friends, unless they are poor and got no means to have their meals, its best not to have monetary contacts. Many valuable friendships fail because of money.

16. It is for you to adapt to society, not society to adapt to you.

17. Don't let others know what you really think, laugh in front of others, hide and cry alone.

18. Simple things are complicated to do, and complicated things are simple to do. Be responsible for your actions, don't blame others, think about whether you should do it before you do it, and learn to solve it yourself when something goes wrong.

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