24 tips to make you socially successful in the world

1.

Remember this principle: no matter how close or familiar with other people, do keep a distance. Being close doesn't mean you can be messed around.

2.

If someone helps you, you have to thank them. Even if the other person offers advice and help that is of no use to you, you have to show your gratitude.

3.

When you talk to a person, if the other party always deliberately change the topic, it means that they are very sensitive to the topic, or do not want to continue. At this time, we should be appropriate to stop; when you talk to a person, but the other party is always looking at the watch, drinking water, or not facing you, indicating that others do not want to chat with you at this time, or very annoyed with you.

4.

Remember one thing: do not chat with people of different channels, different levels, different views. For example, if you talk to a person with low education, you talk to him about logic and he talks to you about morality and ethics, and if you all talk and talk, no one will be able to convince anyone, and you may end up fighting. The right approach is: when you meet a self-righteous person, you agree with whatever he says.

5.

We need to understand words within words.

Weekend busy? = I miss you; go back and wait for notice = the interview does not pass; I think about it = I will not consider at all.

6.

Remember one thing: politeness and kindness should be given to the right person, a gentleman's friendship is open and honest, a villain still needs a villain's plan. For example, when you are polite and courteous to a person, it is possible that you will get perfunctory, contemptuous, even abusive and bullying from others in return. Therefore, it is important to lose your temper appropriately in order to let others know you exist and to make them respect you.

7.

When you earn money, just secretly rejoice, it is best not to let others know. As the saying goes: money cannot be revealed. When you are a little bit accomplished, you can be smug, you can be proud and arrogant. You think you will receive a lot of praise and admiration, but in fact, you will only attract people's hatred, jealousy and red, others will rack their brains to discredit you, suppress you, kill you, this is the human nature.

By the way, I would like to remind you that all those people in your circle of friends who are showing off their cars, brand names, dinners and villas are basically fake. They have only one purpose, to get you to join them and then cheat you out of your money.

8.

According to psychologists’ research: when you go to an unfamiliar environment, let others help you do some small favor, can make each other's relationship warm up quickly. The reason is that when you ask someone for a favor, they will think that you recognize them, need them, and trust them, and thus their goodwill towards you will be greatly enhanced.

For example, when you have just joined a company, you can try to borrow a pen from someone around you, borrow a piece of paper, ask for the location of the bathroom, ask for the WiFi password ...... These things may all seem small and minor, but they can promote mutual relations and ease all kinds of embarrassment in order to allow you to better integrate into the new company!

9.

You can be polite and sassy, but don't be too soft. It's good to treat people with courtesy, but you also have to distinguish what kind of people they are. For the kind that is unreasonable, like to take advantage of people, do not need to be polite to him, hard, he would not dare to bully you.

You have to acknowledge a very solid fact: good people are not always rewarded with good things; on the contrary, good people will often be taken advantage of. Another point is that justice that is late is not justice. For example, a person is wrongly convicted and imprisoned for decades. Can you call it justice when it takes decades to be cleared of wrongdoing? You let a person be imprisoned for decades for no reason, is that also justice?

10.

No matter what time of day, when talking to anyone, do not look down and play with your mobile phone, it is a reflection of your upbringing. When you look down and play with your phone, you are disrespectful to the other.

11.

Compliments are the most effective and least costly way to give to others. It's not flattering, it's a reflection of how we can improve our relationship.

Everyone likes to hear good things, no one likes to be criticized. Even if you find out that the other person is wrong, don't say so right away, otherwise they will not only not appreciate it, but will also resent you. Remember the saying: Letting a person admit their mistake to their face is tantamount to depriving them of their self-esteem, and it's strange that they won't fight with you.

12.

No matter what happens, do not be an afterthought.

When a thing fails, do not say to others: "If you had listened to me", "do not listen to my words, suffer in front of the eyes" such windy words, although this is very cool to say, but in the eyes of others, you are gloating, false compassion, and thus resentment towards you. This is a good thing to say, but to others, you will appear to be gloating and faking compassion, which will lead to resentment. The right thing to do is: either enlighten him or offer him help.

13.

Never fantasise: by approaching rich people, you can achieve the dream of becoming rich overnight.

Let alone whether you can meet a rich person, even if you do, do you have the ability to make a rich person look at you? If so, you don't have to have this dream.

 

14.

An online job fact: If you are looking for a job online and the other party doesn't ask you anything, or just chat with you for a few minutes, then ask you to go to an interview directly. Don't go, he just wants to trick you into getting his KPI.

In fact, many HR departments have a track record of interviewing at least a few people a month. So, the personnel department will post job information everywhere on the Internet, as long as someone comes to ask, they will directly about the interview, regardless of whether you meet the conditions, you people over the line.

For example, a company is recruiting for a certain position and requires at least one year's experience. And you're a fresher, and he knows about it, but he calls you over for an interview anyway. When you went, he went through the whole interview process with you very patiently and then told you to go back and wait for the notice. There is no doubt that you are eliminated.

15.

Anyone who has something to find you, or wants to contact you, will take the initiative to say hello to you the first time after you add him. If the other party adds you, you do not take the initiative to say hello, and he has not said a word. No need to think much about it, just delete it. It might just be a marketing number.

16.

When you meet difficulties, and gets a loan, even if the other party doesn't press you to pay back the money, you have to pay back a little every once in a while to show that you haven't forgotten.

Also, when you pay back the money, it's a good idea to show it. Either give a little extra interest or treat the person to a meal. That's being human! It's not hard to borrow and return; it's easy to borrow money and not to forget, but when you return it, you have to return it.

 

17.

When a person's tone is not quite sure, no need to ask further questions, it is obvious: he is refusing you.

For example, you invite a person out for a meal, but the other person says: "I'll think about it". Don't think too much about it, the person is rejecting you. Words like this and more: "I'd like to see", "Some other time", "Let's see how it goes", "Let's see the weather ", "Let's talk about it then" ......

18.

When you come out into society, put aside the influence of your family of origin on you. Whatever happens, don't think about your family of origin and don't let others bring it up.

We are all adults now, and if we come out, we will have to rely on ourselves sooner or later. Don't feel inferior because of your family's poverty, but likewise don't forget the kindness of your parents' upbringing.

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Changing the minds of others is one of the stupidest, most laborious and unappealing things you can do, don't do it!

None of us are saints or teachers and have no obligation to convert or teach others. Therefore, when you find that the other person's views are misplaced, you should not expose him and correct him. You think you are helping him, while he thinks you are opposing him and ridiculing him. Not only will he not be grateful to you, but he will also resent you.

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In this fast-paced age of materialism and impatience, if you want people to trust you, show something practical that will help more than anything else!

For example, if you want someone to help you, giving a red packet and buying a meal is most useful. Don't say things like, "If you help me now, I'll share 50% of your earnings in the future." No one will believe you, they will only believe in the immediate benefits.

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in order to protect yourself, remember one thing: in any public place, do not feel free to judge others.

There are ears on the wall, and what you accidentally say today could be the trigger for someone to get you in trouble later. Remember: trouble comes from the mouth, this saying will never go out of fashion.

22.

Don't speak too straight, even if your words are justified, no one likes to hear the truth, especially the bad truth.

23.

Things that have nothing to do with making money, try to do as little as possible, or simply do not do.

Why are you poor? It is because you not only earn less money and spend more money, but also always go to some meaningless social, drinking and dinner.

24.

Do not be busy bodies. We are all just ordinary people who can't afford to get into trouble.

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Let's say a very harsh truth: when a person is born into a poor family, the odds are that in the future, that person will be an average person.

If I ask you a question: "What is the most important thing in this world?"

I believe many of you would say: time, life, health, love, affection, sun, water ...... However, I would say that you are all wrong! Personally, I think money is the most important, if you don't believe me, I will analyze it step by step below for you to see.

The fact that the boss is able to buy an hour of your time for a couple of dollars means that time is not worth anything.

When a person is in critical condition and goes to the hospital, as long as there is no money, the hospital most likely will not save.

If health is more important than money? Then why are there still many people who are willing to work overtime and stay up all night for the sake of that pitiful salary, regardless of their health?

Some people say, "Money can't buy love". This statement is true, but love without money is rarely successful in reality.

Natural resources like sunlight, water and air, which everyone can have, would not be worth much.

So, although money is not everything, it does matter in a way; especially for ordinary people like us, where money is, so to speak, of paramount importance.

So, what should we do as ordinary workers to make a more secure life? Why not take a look at these few harsh social truths below.

1.

A person, only when he is bent on getting money, he will live through, live to understand, live more intelligently. The most difficult thing to do in this society is to transfer the money from other people's pockets to your own, which is what we call "making money".

When a person is out in society to make money, he or she will find ways to claim benefits for themselves, thus improving their thinking and cognitive skills.

For example, when you are running an online shop, you are constantly thinking, exploring, analysing and summarising your experiences every day, so that your online shop turnover can be improved.

To open an online shop, you not only have to learn skills such as operation, design, copywriting, marketing and accounting; over time, all your abilities will be enhanced and when you look at a thing, you will also see it more objectively and comprehensively and know the logical principles behind it.

Therefore, earning money can force a person to make progress, and it can also force a person to improve his or her professional skills so that he or she can better adapt to the society. Only when a person earns money will he or she have a more profound knowledge of this society and really understand the mechanism of its operation.

2.

When a person belittles you, no matter how well or flawlessly you do, he will still talk down to you. Therefore, when you meet this kind of person, try to stay away. With his words, you will become more and more inferior, less and less self-respecting, and you will always be afraid of doing anything, and you will never develop and progress.

When he is your boss, you need to find a way to get away from him. If you work with him, all you will ever get is criticism, blame, belittlement, contempt, and even abuse.

3.

It is well known: the fastest way to make money is to take advantage of the information gap. For example: among all people, only you know the gap of a certain software, and then you can make a lot of money through this technique.

However, the current era of rapid development of information, a lot of knowledge, technology has long been open and transparent, ordinary people want to make money from the information gap has become much more difficult. Therefore, when a person tells you a way to make money for no reason, you should be extra careful, he is most likely to lie to you.

A very simple truth: when a money-making road to take the initiative to find you, it means that this road has long been known, not to make money; either the other party wants to cheat you of investment, course fees, etc., do not fall for the scam.

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Remember the saying: the biggest stumbling block on the road to making money, that is feelings!

We all need to understand: money in many cases, will be much more important than feelings. As long as there is money, feelings can be slowly cultivated, everything is not a problem; but without money, even if you have deep feelings, no one is willing to make money with you.

In today's society, marriage is a very costly affair. A house, a car, bride price, all kinds of expenses, which does not cost money? If you don't have money, you should be single. No one will be stupid enough to marry someone who doesn't have money.

I believe we have all seen such an example: a few people from the same village invest in a business together, and at the beginning, we were united and had small successes.

However, as time went on, some of them started to be lazy. When the other partners saw this, they didn't dare to say anything for the sake of face and affection. So the lazy ones get more and more reckless, leading to a steep decline in performance and eventually to bankruptcy. There is another possibility: the common uneven division of money, which is also likely to lead to bankruptcy.

Or, there are many couples who run small shops and restaurants together and see their business booming, but in the end the two start to fall out over the sharing of money, or even get divorced.

Therefore, in the way of making money and starting a business, it is best not to partner with people who are too close with you, you must be ruthless and give up your feelings, so that you can start a successful business.

5.

Remember this: if you want to make money, you have to be thick-skinned, shameless and unethical! Anyone who follows the rules of morality, who loves to save face, who is affectionate and shy, the odds are that they will not earn any money.

As an ordinary worker, we all need to understand one thing: the so-called moral rules are merely tailored by the strong for the weak. The strong are strong because the strong never follow the moral rule and dare to break the inherent rules in order to eventually stand out from the crowd.

The weak are weak because they have always followed the rules set by the strong, and have spent their lives in a world planned by others, like rats in a cage, so how can they become strong?

6.

If you don't want to be ordinary, if you want to make a lot of money, then don't have a moral burden. If you don't want to be squeezed and exploited, then go ahead and squeeze and exploit others! There are so many "leeks", if you don't harvest them, someone else will. The best way to get out of poverty is to join the ranks of capital, to change from passive to active, to teach the world that it is better for me to be negative than for others to be negative.

Think carefully: which of the people around you who are working honestly and in a disciplined manner have become rich? Which one of them has been able to achieve glory and prosperity? They all work hard day in and day out, but in the end they can only afford to eat and sleep, and they may not be able to afford a house or a car for the rest of their lives.

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When you have no value, you have more friends, but also useless. The phrase "more friends, more roads" is one-sided, and should be: when you have a good journey, the world is your friend; when you are poor and struggling, even girlfriends, relatives do not want to know you. This is the naked reality, and I hope you can understand it.

In short, you have to rely on yourself at all times. Think about it, the people who are willing to make friends with you are usually about as strong as you are, and the odds of getting ahead are very slim. Besides, even if they do get rich, the odds are that they will leave you behind. You should not be surprised, this is human nature.

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You have to be careful of those people who are full of good sense, benevolence and morality, these people are bad at heart, but they often teach others to be selfless, to be grateful and not to be concerned about gains and losses ......

There is a song that goes like this: "If only everyone gave a piece of love, the world would become a better place." There is nothing wrong with the intent of this lyric, but the prerequisite for it to be realised is that everyone has to abide by a moral code. Think about it? If 99 out of 100 people give selflessly, but one person not only doesn't give, but also takes for himself what the other 99 people have given. And that person is the "capitalist" who teaches people to be selfless.

Therefore, please be careful with your kindness and love, don't give blindly and don't help others blindly. For example, if your boss asks you to work overtime day and night every day, this is not called giving, it is called oppression and exploitation.

9.

When a person is born in a poor family, this person in the future, the probability will be an ordinary person.

Perhaps you will never know, nor have you experienced, how inferior a child from a poor family of origin is inside. From a young age, he has no money and cannot buy the toys he wants. His parents always teach that the family is poor, so don't give them any trouble outside. So when he was bullied, he was afraid to say anything for fear of giving his parents too much trouble. Over time, they become more and more timid, afraid to try anything, and they don't even have the strength to speak up.

They are afraid of failing, of getting their parents into trouble, of getting into trouble that the family cannot afford ...... In the end, they can only bear the grievances and tears in silence, and gradually give themselves up under the ridicule and bullying of others.

In other words: children from poor families are like those who have just put on sandals from bare feet, walking carefully for fear of breaking them ...... Their thinking is: they no longer expect tomorrow to be better, they just hope that tomorrow will not be worse than today.

10.

The easiest social skill: looking good, which is the most useful, least expensive and lowest risk method. To put it bluntly, when you're good-looking, your farts smell good; when you're ugly, you can't even breathe right.

So when you are good looking, you can use that to make a lot of money; when you are not good looking, and have no money or talent, then you either have to work honestly or find another way to forge a new path.

11.

Friends, have you ever heard the saying: "Money is spent, and the more you spend, the richer you get". It says that people who are frugal with their money will never earn it. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get a lot of money to spend.

But you know what? Do you know who is saying these things? The answer is the capitalists and various lending institutions. Their aim is simple: they want you to spend and take out loans so that they can get something for nothing.

If you don't believe me, you can try it out: take the tens of thousands of dollars you have saved up with your hard work, go drive a Mercedes, go buy a LV, go invest, and see if you starve to death first or make money first in the end.

12.

Solve the problem of getting out of poverty first, and then solve the problem of getting out of being singles.

The reason is simple: when you're poor, you're all about making money and don't bother with anything else. Only when you have money can you survive, and only then can you think about anything else. And of course, you should not imagine that you will find a rich woman or a rich man who will give you money. There is no denying that some people have succeeded, but think about it: would such a good thing happen to you? If you were so lucky, why are you still so poor?

There is another very real reason: when you are poor, no one wants to be in a relationship with you. Especially not the men. As long as you don't have money, none of those crooked women will want to marry you.

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Sleep is a very important thing, and we spend about a third of our lives sleeping. When a job takes up most of your time, making you even sleep is not enough; or, every day let you stay up late and work overtime, or even overnight ...... these jobs are not worth, can quit it. We poor people were already miserable, don't even want our own health? Now you use your life for money, you'll have to use money for medicine in the future, and it's not enough to make ends meet.

14.

Whenever you can, save as much as you can, and don't spend as much as you can.

The reason is simple.

Firstly, the bosses nowadays, when they don't like you, they can fire you at any time, so the risk of you losing your job is high.

Secondly, hospitals are so expensive that you have to pay for all kinds of tests and fees to get in, so you can't afford to get sick.

Thirdly, the mortgages nowadays are so cold and ruthless that you cannot cut off your mortgage payments even in special times like the current epidemic. If you break your mortgage, your house will be gone, but you will have to keep paying the loan; if you can't finish it in this life, let your children and grandchildren pay it for you; if you pass on the loan, your children and grandchildren will have endless loans.

Fourth, nowadays, prices, housing prices and fuel prices are all rising, but only wages are not. If you spend recklessly again, you probably won't be able to save money.

15.

All the relationships on the network, are dispensable, are consumption, you must know how to properly abandon. For example, you have a lot of friends in a certain letter, a certain voice, a certain game, who talk to each other. Therefore, you think you are a socialite. In fact, these are virtual, only briefly comforting your emotions and not at all useful in reality. What's more: it's hard to tell right from wrong on the internet, and there are many scammers, so you should be careful.

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Remember one thing: what you can't have now is equivalent to what you don't have now. For example: the pie your boss draws for you, the promises your boyfriend/girlfriend gives you, the things others casually promise you ...... don't believe in any of these, they don't exist.

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If you are born in a poor or average family, you have to do this: stay away from the poor education your parents gave you.

To put it mildly: the very fact that your parents were so poor means that their level of knowledge, cognitive ability and thinking patterns were somewhat flawed. Therefore, the education, advice and guidance they give you is basically incomplete, unobjective and unreliable, so don't listen to them. If you listen to them, the chances are that you will be like them in the future.

Of course, you can learn from their approach, attitude and social experience, as well as their maturity, love and reasoning, but don't listen to their guidance on key issues.

18.

The reason why you may think a person is not emotionally intelligent is because you are not important in his heart. When he is to important people, his emotional quotient will pull up in a straight line.

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Always keep this in mind: "Anyone who says that he can take you to make money, don't believe it! His purpose is simple, he just wants to earn your money. When you find a business, investment projects are low threshold, low risk, high return, the project is often a high input, high risk, low return, and will certainly end up with no money!"

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When you have money, in the eyes of others: you are all merits; when you do not have money, in the eyes of others: you are a complete failure.

If you don't believe me, you can pay more attention to the people around you. Whenever a rich person can't afford to spend money, he is said to have the virtue of thrift and frugality; but when a poor person can't afford to spend money, he is said to be "a poor man, and a stingy one, yuck!"

In conclusion, I sincerely hope that you will not remain poor all your life. For it is too hard to be poor, to put in the most work and not get the rewards you deserve. To work hard all your life and not even be able to afford a small house ...... I also believe from the beginning: the world will get better and better and the number of poor people will get smaller and smaller.

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All the poor people are stuck in a trap, and all the rich people are busy setting up traps, many poor people cannot even react and thus trapped for life. So when you get up in the morning, don't be stupid and read useless entertainment news or click on funny pictures. This is the most conducive time for us to do creative work, because this is the moment when the mind is at its clearest. Take out a book that is normally hard to read and read it for two hours, then work hard, work hard to make money.

We need to make money to survive, and to make money, we need to rely on a flexible brain, learn to manage resources, do reliable things. For example, a friend of mine had an advertising company, made a fortune, and then began to speculate in stocks. He has no knowledge in stocks, lost a lot of money then came a relative's serious illness, completely left him bankrupt, also owed a lot of foreign debts. He was also depressed and lost confidence, and did not want to do anything.

Although he had no money, his friends would think of him and invite him out to a party. Once, during dinner, a friend said that he needs help to name his child. There came an opportunity, so he gave that friend a call and said, "Let's do a naming service, and I'll package your interest as a means of making money.

I'll find the clients; you just take care of the naming. His friend didn't hesitate to say yes. I immediately started printing business cards, but also a virtual company name, the name of the buddy to do the packaging, these for him to do this kind of advertising people, it is not a problem. The next step was to start running around the hospital non-stop. He looked for doctors or nurses in obstetrics and gynaecology to work with, and gave people a hundred percent of the commission for every single name business they introduced. This is considered precision marketing, once there is business, people will contact him.For the company naming business, he found a business and industry agency to work with. Later, he found someone to do a website, through a variety of channels of marketing, within a year he was up, earning hundreds of thousands of dollars.

I know a lot of people in the process of starting a business, everything to save money, then we will talk about saving, saving is a traditional virtue, but I always think too much saving is a disease. Many people just talk to the poor about how to save money and to the rich about how to cultivate their bodies and strengthen their spiritual civilisation. It's all about making a living, I get it. Those who burn incense and kowtow in temples are all millionaires and multi-millionaires, and those who usually stay with monks and talk are also rich people. Monks are human beings too, and all human beings have human nature!

For example, if we make money on the internet, some people have been straightforward and don't bother to spend money. They quietly feel their own way, a few months have passed and there is nothing to gain. Thinking that there is nothing to lose, anyway, there is no money invested, the key question is, by others pointing out, instantly enlightened, on the road, how much money can be earned in a month? As we all know, all the secrets to making money are things that people figure out for themselves, the key question is, do you have that kind of wisdom? Everything is simple, and everything is not. The so-called secrets of making money, whatever you don't know, will always be a secret.

There are also many friends who do business on the Internet, some by their own deadlines, desperately, making money. But really want to make a lot of money, you have to rely on paid promotion, free promotion not only to rely on physical strength, but also to fight with the rules of the platform, a little tired. But paid traffic channels, is to spend money to test, only constant testing, constant spending money, it is possible to burn out experience. Most people care too much about money, so it is impossible to spend money to test the experience.

For example, on a high altitude glass walkway, although you know that this glass is 100% safe, but, you are still scared inside. So, to be a paid traffic channel, you have to think of money as a tool. Go test. A brother asked me about going to a local public website and spending $3,000 to see if he could make money. He asked me if he could guarantee to make money. If you can make money, you'll do it, but if you can't, you won't. I then said: it's not a matter of making money or not, it's a matter of your thinking. You have to get into the habit of spending money; it's a sure way to your wealth freedom. So, just spend the 3,000, it's not killing you, you should be happy and happy to spend it is. The road to wealth freedom, the road to paid traffic, is all measured out. People who are not willing to spend money are basically not connected to wealth freedom.

To survive, we must give up, we must die to free ourselves and release value. When you go to work, crazy to release value for the boss, when you work alone, desperately to release value for customers. Frankly speaking: releasing value like crazy and being habitually crazy is a habit. With this habit, we are all meat-eating lives in any field. So whoever can create wealth for society, society will reuse them. Don't move to complain that the sunshine of society can't shine on us, if we are so much higher than others, how can the sunshine not shine on us?

In fact, a man, with no woman and career, to a large extent is a person without courage caused by, for example, entrepreneurship, this thing, not many people dare to do, pick up this thing, the same not many men dare to do. A lot of people don't dare to spend money on learning, or they hesitate to do so, dragging their feet and making themselves worthless. Then he'd rather spend the money on useless entertainment. So those of us who are determined not to have any interaction with such people, all our actions, must be marketing, must be making money, must be doing the right thing. All words, solved by marketing!

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1. Drink a glass of warm boiled water every morning when you wake up. One, it will hydrate your body and allow it to recover from sleep; two, it will clear the impurities in your intestines; and three, it will balance the stomach acid, which will be more helpful for the next meal.

2. Insist on doing 20-30 deep squats every day. Not only can you exercise and relieve fatigue; you can also make your beer belly gradually disappear.

3. Do not always have only three minutes of enthusiasm, when you want to do something, it is recommended to turn off or away from the mobile phone, computer all communication devices, and then find a quiet environment to do things seriously.

4.Don't drink alcohol, don't smoke, don't drink milk tea, drink less sweetened drinks, eat less puffs, doughnuts and other high energy foods; in short: don't eat too much of anything that tastes too good.

5. No matter how busy you are at work or other things, you should eat three meals a day on time; especially breakfast, you must eat it.

6. Read at least one book a month if you have the opportunity and the means to do so. It is not limited to any book, as long as you like it, but read something nutritious.

7. No matter whether you are now reading or not, you should insist on learning every day; no limit to the type, as long as you like; even if you study for five minutes every day, you can refine a lot over the years.

8. Watching short videos can be addictive, but don't get addicted to them; playing games is also the same thing, just relax properly, there is no need to waste too much time here.

9. In the underground, bus and other occasions, speak as quietly as possible. It's respectful of others and you're doing yourself a favour.

10. If you are not in a private space, it is best to wear headphones when listening to music, otherwise it will make people feel less good about you.

11. habitually change "thanks" to "thank you", whether it is an acquaintance, a stranger, or a delivery boy or courier, after receiving help from others, you should say: "thank you "This is not a question of politeness, but of quality and education.

12. If you feel too much stress or anxiety, you can try to "meditate" by closing your eyes and breathing deeply to relax your body. Don't think about anything else, just let it go for about 5 minutes.

13. At no time should you speak privately about other people's shortcomings, bad words or long-winded gossip.

14. Don't pick up the phone or talk loudly on the phone in sensitive places such as public toilets, as this may cause unnecessary trouble.

15. Try to accept some habits of others that you don't like but are not malicious, and don't care about them no matter what they do, as long as they are not malicious or harmless to you.

16. When you have good food or fun, you can share it with others around you, whether they accept it or not, you will not lose anything.

17. Complain less and do more. Complaining is a sign of an incompetent person, and no one likes to hear your complaints at all. Everyone has their own way of life and discomforts, and it's really okay to look the other way.

18. Don't try to try or desire to make people who don't understand you understand you. People who don't understand you will most likely have a different outlook than you, and no matter how much you try to persuade them, they will only get bored or even resentful. Therefore, for those who do not understand you, you should have less contact with them.

19. Always remember this saying: "For most ordinary people, studying is currently the best investment that can change their destiny only and only".

20.Falling in love is not a matter of sex, let alone a deal, but a long period of time to get to know each other, understand each other, support each other, and gradually integrate each other's opinions and views, not a matter of overnight.

21. Learn to say something nice, it's not flattering and it's a necessary social skill today; complimenting others is the least expensive and most effective form of encouragement; remember: emotional intelligence doesn't necessarily require you to be articulate, but at least to make people feel comfortable with you.

22. Block out ineffective social interaction. A lot of the drinking and partying in your life is pointless and a waste of money, time and energy.

23. There is no need to make so many friends, one or two that you get along with are enough. Leave yourself more time to live a simple, free life.

24. Continuously open up sources of income and cut costs. Learn more, improve yourself and earn more money; reduce unnecessary consumption, and spend as little as you can on things that have nothing to do with your life, and don't fall into the consumption trap set by capitalists.

25. Eat a small and good breakfast, a full lunch and a light dinner.

26. Always remember: don't stay up late, it's bound to hurt your body; if you have to for work and other reasons, don't stay up late for long, otherwise you're trading your life for money!

27. When attending important events and meetings, turn your mobile phone to silent or off.

28. Keep your skincare habits simple. In fact, there is no need to put on famous skincare products when you can keep it simple.

29. If you really want to use a mask, it's best to use an applicator. Don't ask why, the sky is the limit.

30. Eye cream is actually a luxury item, so if you can live without it, don't.

31. When bathing, it is best to use solid soap instead of shower gel. Most shower gels on the market today contain a compound called "oil-based" that creates a "fake slip" that is not really useful and can cause more or less harm to human skin in the long run.

32. Sitting is very harmful, so if you can, reduce it.

33. Always remember the old saying: "A gun is a bird in the head", learn from the tortoise, when the head should be shrunk; do not be foolish to be a bird in the head, if things are successful, the reward obtained is not the most you share; but if it fails, the first harm is you, and it is multiplied by the harm.

34. It is important to learn to say "no" appropriately. Refusing does not mean that you are rude, but also that you have principles. The saying "one more thing is better than less" is still true.

35. When dealing with anyone, keep this principle in mind: people are nice to you out of affection, not out of necessity; therefore, never ask people to be nice to you.

36. The best way to prevent being cheated is: don't be cheap or poor enough for anyone to cheat you.

37. In fact, many things, conflicts, differences and misunderstandings can be solved through communication! So, when you encounter something unpleasant, don't get angry in a hurry, and try to find the other party to communicate first, most likely to be able to solve things.

38. Try not to interrupt others when they are talking, unless you have something particularly important to do.

39. Don't test people's hearts easily, because no one can afford to test them; if you win the test, you are disappointed; if you lose the test, you let the other person down. In short, it is bound to end badly.

40. It is hard to be confused in life, not too shrewd, you can "live" longer.

41. Discipline yourself, every day before you go to bed, give yourself a few tasks for tomorrow, and ask yourself to do them. Remember, don't aim too high and don't lose touch with reality.

42. Be a low-profile person, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble.

43. Compliment others more often, but don't patronise them. Even if the other person knows that you are only complimenting them, they will still rise in favor of you internally.

44. Always take five things with you when you go out: keys, cash, mobile phone, paper and mask; make it a good habit to check them before you go out each time, and you will have a lot less trouble.

45. Drink plenty of water every day, don't wait until you are thirsty! Especially for girls, drinking water not only helps you to look good, but also reduces the odour on your body.

46. You should eat fruits and vegetables regularly, so that you will rarely get sick.

47. If you want to protect yourself from the sun, it's best to do both physical and chemical methods.

48. No matter how busy or tired you are at work, you should exercise properly; if a job leaves you with no time to exercise, quit if you can.

49. When you are in a bad mood or depressed, try to tidy up your room, maybe you will feel much better.

50. Don't push yourself too hard at any time, life is short, there's really no need to make things difficult for yourself.

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The sooner you understand these 10 insights, the better, you can take the road less traveled

A while ago, there was a topic that was pushed to the top of the search: why are the young people of today "decadent", "lying flat", and "lousy"?

Netizens have been talking about it, and the one with the most likes is the following one.

The reason why young people today are so unmotivated is because they lack one thing, and that is: hope.

The sooner you understand these 10 insights, the better, you can take the road less traveled.

When you can't afford to buy a house even after a lifetime of hard work; when you can't save any money even after working overtime every day; when you can't get a decent job even after 10 years of hard study; when you are full of ambition and dreams, but you can't beat the word "money"; when you have been beaten by society, young people have already put The young people who have been beaten by society have already lost all their "hope" and "faith" and are left with nothing but helplessness and bitterness.

No one's dream is to buy a house when they grow up. Everyone wants to experience all kinds of life in their limited life, but the reality is: every day is from 9 to 6, constantly working overtime, with no time to exercise, cook for yourself, travel, discover interests, socialise and fall in love. ......

When you get home from work at night, you wash up, fall asleep, and then wake up the next day for another round of work, and so on and so forth, until your youthful years are exhausted. ......

The actual fact is that you can find a lot of friends and a wide range of contacts, but there are only a few friends you can talk to.

They are all ordinary people, but they live a miserable life where their words don't mean what they say and they can't help themselves.

After reading them, I can only say: it's so true; it's like being sober on earth.

So, today, I share with you 10 perceptions about growing up, and I hope you will see this article early and read it.

1, if you have an ordinary family, average ability, connections, mediocre looks, average IQ, nothing special, the fastest way to make a comeback is: choose an industry you like, first rooted in it for three to five years, and try to improve your ability, accumulate your experience, expand your network, expand your horizons, form your own unique thinking, and build your own industry resource base.

After three to five years, if your capital, network, ability and timing are ripe, you can try to start your own business first. Remember: it is not advisable to expand your business blindly in the early stages, you should walk on thin ice, be cautious, slowly feel your way across the river, one step at a time, and do not rush into anything.

Self-employment is not an easy thing, and the chances of success are few and far between, so think twice and twice again.

2, no matter what you encounter, do not be impulsive. A lot of things, often because of a moment of impulsiveness, only to end up in a big disaster. Also, when you are angry, it is best to keep your mouth shut, otherwise it will bring you a lot of unnecessary trouble.

3. Whenever you meet people, you should not reveal your privacy, character or weaknesses to others (especially strangers) because you do not know what kind of people you will meet, and a word you say without thinking can often become a handle for others to threaten you.

Therefore, no matter what the occasion is, we should not put our emotions on our faces, always keep smiling and stay positive. This way, you are more likely to be favoured by the opposite sex, trusted by elders, and relied upon by leaders.

Some people say it's hypocritical to do so! But I just want to ask: in this world of deceit, if you are not hypocritical, can you still survive? Look at them, those who are honest and sincere, aren't they always being bullied?

4. Always remember this: Get out of poverty first, then get out of singleness!

When you have money, and the other party has no feelings for you, it does not matter, the other party is willing to cultivate with you properly; when you have no money, even if the other party has feelings for you, sorry, the other party is not willing to suffer with you.

Love is always built on material basis, especially this materialistic era, without material protection, any mutual love is empty talk.

5, excessive modesty, equivalent to hypocrisy; excessive forbearance, equivalent to incompetence; excessive initiative, equivalent to licking the dog.

The person, can be a little humble, after all, modesty makes people progress, but if modesty is too much, it will make people feel very hypocritical.

The actual fact is that you can be a little bit more tolerant, but some people, some things, once you give in, you will get the other side of the inch.

The boy chased the girl, can take the initiative a little, after all, the initiative to have a story. If you've got a lot of initiative, you'll get a lot of perfunctory responses from the other side, so you should stop. It is very humble to be a licking dog, and in the end there is nothing

6, you can remain optimistic and upbeat, but also to recognize the reality, back to self.

A person who has not replied to you for more than 24 hours is politely rejecting you; remember the saying: no one will be so busy that they can't see your message all day, some just see and don't want to reply.

No girl likes a "dog licker". What they like is: they want money, they are handsome, they are talented, and they have a background. So, as long as you don't have money, even if you take care of her and do everything, she won't like you.

Instead of fantasizing about someone taking you flying, it is wise to spend your time on fitness, reading, working, improving yourself, investing in yourself, and keeping yourself refined.

7, rather learn from the turtle, hold your breath and take a step back; not learn from the hedgehog, covered with thorns, the export of hurt.

First of all, we have to understand one thing: no matter what people are, they like to hear good words, no one likes to hear the truth or bad words.

Therefore, when our strength does not allow us to do so, we might as well learn from the tortoise, and endure things as long as we can; although it looks cowardly and unambitious, it can ensure that we are unharmed and achieve the goal of obscene development.

On the contrary, if you go and learn from the hedgehog, covered in thorns and offending people as soon as you speak, you will sooner or later be ostracised. Those who are sharp may seem to have the upper hand, but in fact they make enemies everywhere and will not be able to go far in the end.

It is a very simple truth: no matter what the occasion, the leader will never promote a person who is in opposition to him every day. The "ass-kissing" in the workplace may seem very humble and cheap, but in fact, it is the most effective way for an ordinary person to get a promotion and a raise.

8, from now on, and make money from things that have nothing to do with, can do less, cannot do, do not do.

Each of us is given the mission of making money when we are born. What is the purpose of ten years of hard study? To make money, of course! Therefore, in a limited life, making money is the most important thing, and the rest is just an accompaniment.

Foolish people are always fond of vanity. Very often, for the sake of a banner, an award, a certificate of honour, or a false ranking in a game, they are willing to become someone else's pawn and go to the edge of the sword or the edge of the fire for others.

Cao Cao once said, "Do not be greedy for false fame but deal with real misfortune". The meaning is: Do not covet false fame and invite real misfortune.

Therefore, in real life, we should be wary of these illusory honours. For example, in the workplace, the top performer receives a certificate of honour; in a game, the first place in a battle is awarded a title of honour; in a certain competition, spending a few thousand dollars to enter, one receives a trophy of honour. These are false rewards, hungry cannot be eaten as a meal, and cold cannot be worn as clothes, and in the end can only be thrown into the trash!

9, no matter what the occasion, do not speak too bluntly; see through and not say through, is also a kind of cultivation.

Although words are not as sharp as a knife blade, they are more hurtful than a knife blade. Very often, when you tell the truth and correct a mistake, the other person is not only ungrateful, but also angry.

That's the wonderful thing about human nature. When you expose a person's lies, they don't admit their mistakes because it makes them lose face. So he will think that you are against him and will argue with you to the death.

Therefore, learn to "see people say people say, see ghosts say ghosts", often can avoid a lot of trouble.

10, appropriate pretend to be confused, more to win the recognition and appreciation of others; if everywhere are too calculating, will be disliked.

Many times, pretending to be confused is also a kind of high emotional intelligence performance. Especially in the workplace, people who know how to play dumb are more likely to win the promotion and respect of their leaders. On the contrary, if you always think you are very capable, and everywhere to steal the limelight, and will be jealous of many people, and even hate.

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The 4 kinds of food should be avoided if you have Gout

The 4 kinds of food should be avoided after high uric acid develops gout, so that uric acid does not get out of control

With the improvement of living conditions, people's diets are getting better, so this will lead to the high incidence of many diseases, one of which is commonly gout, and there are many people who call gout a disease of affluence, because it has a certain relationship with diet.

However, many people who suffer from gout do not treat it in time and do not control their diet, often overeating and drinking as they please.

For those who suffer from gout, is it still possible to eat and drink as much as you like? What are the effects on the body?

In fact, when you have gout, you have to control your diet and stop overeating and drinking. If you eat and drink as much as you want, the result is pain, and when the condition is severe, the pain is more intense and unbearable.

This is because when you suffer from gout, the level of uric acid in your body rises. If you don't pay attention to your diet, then the level of uric acid deposited in the joint cavity will increase and eventually form a kind of crystalline salt, which affects the normal movement of the joints, leading to movement disorders and bringing serious consequences to your life.

So after the emergence of gout, we must have proper control of their diet. If we overeat the following 4 kinds of food, then it will let the uric acid out of control, bringing serious harm to the body, which kinds of food are there?

1, High purine food

As we all know, purines are a cause of elevated uric acid in the body, so once the level of uric acid in the body is elevated, then it is difficult to discharge the body in a timely manner resulting in joint pain causing gout.

Therefore, in order to prevent gout, it is necessary to limit the intake of high purine foods, such as seafood and animal offal.

These foods are taboo for people with high uric acid, so if you don't want to suffer from gout, then you should avoid these foods in your diet.

2. Alcohol

When alcohol enters the body, it needs to be metabolised by the liver, which will then use the water in the blood, which will lead to an increase in the concentration of uric acid in the blood, which over time will form a crystalline substance in the human tissue and worsen the symptoms.

It is important to remember that beer is not a high purine food, but many of the substances it contains will be converted into purine-containing substances after entering the body, so beer is also a cause of gout patients to quit eating.

3. Strong tea and coffee

With the rise of the coffee industry, many people like to make a cup of coffee or strong tea to refresh themselves, which is a good thing in itself.

However, for patients, after strong tea and coffee enter the body, although it does not directly lead to an increase in purine content, but will make the vagus nerve in the brain in a state of excitement.

This will accelerate the production of uric acid in the body, but it cannot be excreted in time, so it will lead to an increase in the uric acid content in the body and worsen the symptoms of gout.

4, Spicy and stimulating food

When it comes to spicy and stimulating foods and diets that can raise uric acid, hot pot is at the top of the list, especially if there is hot pot soup, because a lot of seafood is put in it when the hot pot is cooked.

Therefore, it is best for people who want to prevent gout to avoid eating hot pot, otherwise they will suffer.

If you drink a lot of alcohol, strong tea, coffee, and a diet high in purines, or if you eat spicy and irritating food, it can lead to a sharp rise in uric acid, which can be very harmful to your health.

Therefore, it is important to eat a light diet with plenty of whole grains and fresh vegetables and fruits, and to drink plenty of water, with a daily intake of around 2000ml.

In addition to this, you should also exercise, such as walking, jogging and tai chi, which can help to improve your metabolism and help to relieve your condition.

What kind of tea is suitable for people with high uric acid and gout?

Nowadays, people's standard of living is getting higher and higher, and the number of people with high uric acid and gout is increasing year by year. Some people with high uric acid may be asymptomatic throughout their lives, but if the blood uric acid level continues to rise, it is likely to cause gout and make people "miserable". To reduce uric acid, one is to reduce the production of uric acid and the other is to increase uric acid excretion. To increase uric acid excretion, we need to increase the amount of water we drink, so what tea is suitable for people with high uric acid and gout?

Uric acid is metabolised through purines, which are the body's metabolic waste. The uric acid produced by the body every day is temporarily stored in a place called the "uric acid pool" and then excreted out of the body with urine and faeces. Under normal circumstances, there is a dynamic balance between the amount of uric acid produced and the amount excreted each day, but if more uric acid is produced or less is excreted, then excess uric acid will build up in the blood, raising the blood uric acid level and creating hyperuricaemia. If uric acid levels continue to rise, uric acid crystals can be precipitated and deposited in the joints, causing gout.

About two thirds of the uric acid produced in the body is excreted in the urine through the kidneys and one third is excreted in the stool through the intestines. Because uric acid is poorly soluble, it must be excreted in sufficient quantities in the urine.

In addition to reducing purine intake, another point in the dietary treatment of high uric acid and gout is to increase water intake to promote uric acid excretion. People with gout should drink at least 2000ml of water a day, choosing from plain water, mineral water, light tea, etc.

Whatever tea you drink, it is not effective in treating gout, but only plays a role in increasing the amount of water you drink. However, when drinking tea, you must choose light tea water. Strong tea has a high caffeine content, which has a stimulating effect on the autonomic nerves and may trigger an acute attack of gout. Because of the large volume of water consumed by gout patients, drinking plain water every day can be tasteless. Drinking some light tea can help maintain a certain amount of urine to promote uric acid excretion, prevent uric acid kidney stones and delay progressive kidney damage.

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