Of all the emotions, anger is the most detestable and violent. Indeed, anger not only fails to solve problems but also triggers a series of issues in life, work, and relationships. Moreover, it can harm our bodies, leading individuals to unknowingly fall into frustration, congestion, and even result in the formation of nodules and other diseases. Thus, adjusting our emotions is crucial in dealing with ourselves and life.
When you feel
anger, try silently reciting the following three sentences. Keeping calm leads
to a naturally balanced state of mind.
Anger is
punishing yourself for others' mistakes. Why do people feel angry?
Perhaps
because they feel that others' rudeness offends them or others' selfishness
infringes upon their interests. Anger arises as a means to vent internal
dissatisfaction.
However,
anger does not resolve issues but instead creates a series of troubles in life
and work. Worse, it can damage your health.
"Anger
is punishing yourself for others' mistakes."
There was a
reported incident: A man passing through a toll booth suddenly began knocking
on his car window seeking help, claiming his wife suddenly experienced limb
paralysis and difficulty breathing.
Upon
questioning by the staff, it was revealed that the woman in the car had argued
with her husband over trivial household matters. She felt her husband was not
understanding enough, which made her more and more angry. Quickly, she began
experiencing numbness in her arms and legs and even felt oxygen-deprived in her
head.
Fortunately,
due to timely medical assistance, the woman's symptoms quickly subsided.
However, not everyone might be as lucky.
In a state of
extreme anger, individuals might likely develop respiratory alkalosis. Those
affected might exhibit symptoms such as numbness in the lips and limbs, chest
tightness, palpitations, and high blood pressure in milder cases. Severe cases
might lead to fainting, disorientation, and could even result in coronary
ischemia.
Clearly,
anger can sometimes pose a threat to life. However, it's not the person who
angered you but yourself who ends up bearing this. Therefore, no matter the
situation, it's important to advise oneself not to get angry. After all, in
this world, nothing is worth trading your physical health for.
When facing
unpleasantness, ask yourself first: Can I resolve this? If you can, try your
best to do so. If not, then let it go.
Anger
Begins with Foolishness and Ends with Regret
Some people,
due to anger, affect their own health; others ruin their own prospects because
of anger. However, almost all anger begins with foolishness and ends with
regret.
The character
for "anger" in Chinese, "怒"
(nù), has the radical for "slave" on top and "heart" at the
bottom. Once immersed in the trap of anger, you become a slave to your own
mindset, led by the nose with the word "anger."
In that
moment, due to a temporary loss of control over anger, you may commit
irreversible mistakes. Therefore, if you wish to avoid regret and unnecessary
trouble, you must learn to control your emotions.
As the saying
goes, "Calmness brings wisdom." Only when you calm down can you find
the energy and time to discover the best solutions to problems.
Being
Enterprising Is Better Than Being Angry, Changing Is Better Than Complaining
Everyone
experiences the seven emotions and six desires; it's a common human experience.
Happiness can turn into sadness, and tranquility can become anger. However,
anger is the most powerless weapon for the incompetent.
Truly wise
people understand that being enterprising is better than being angry, reading
is better than arguing, and changing is better than complaining. There's a
story of a young artist who received a commission from a merchant. The merchant
agreed to pay the artist $10,000 for the artwork, allowing the artist creative
freedom. However, when the young artist finished the painting, the merchant,
seeing the artist's limited fame, only wanted to settle for $3,000. Though the
artist felt unhappy, he said only two words: "Not selling."
Subsequently,
the young artist became more diligent, continuously honing skills and expanding
knowledge. Many years later, he became a renowned artist and held an
exhibition. The paintings displayed at the exhibition left the merchant
sweating; a painting that once cost only a fraction now held a value of over $100,000.
There's a
saying: "When you are weak, bad people are numerous." This is
because, during such times, they might bully you without consequences. However,
once you become strong, the world will perceive you differently.
Therefore,
when facing unpleasant situations, don't just release your anger; instead,
contemplate how to transform this energy. When you invest time and effort into
self-improvement, not only will you discover the endless possibilities of life,
but you'll also leave behind those who once made you angry.
Ultimately,
true growth comes from managing one's emotions. When you learn to let emotions
flow, live peacefully, and release extreme emotions, you'll find inner peace,
and life will flow more smoothly.
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